NewStats: 3,265,235 , 8,186,093 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 01:13 AM 4n4n4f

UrPapa:
dey play
Women won’t be disturbing you like dat if u Neva knack her b4
It’s either dey both had something b4 and wants it to continue or they are still currently knacking
Those questions she’s asking op are not asked from long distances, they are mostly after sex questions

Nooooooo beeeeeee child's...

dkidd:


Plenty talk no dey full basket... U have no experience with women obviously. U are just another tool in the hands of any willing banny. Lol if i dey suck breast when u see life then u must be Methuselah. Not every guy man is still easily swayed by kpekus especially not the ones who have truly seen it all Mr all types of pussay

Both of you are right according to the angle you guys are standing.

Although I have responded to your debater, but the post is long.

Is up there...you can feel free to read.

Connected1:

I have dated women and I currently don't have any nor want any in the next 5 years, I don't feel any attraction for her but I think she's confusing how I care about her for Love.

Because her Brother was even calling me his in-law when he saw me for the 1st time, omo I dae fear abeg.

If the brother is already calling you inlaw, then that is a dangerously red flag. It may be the only reason he gave you the job is because he thinks you are his inlaw to be.

If you don't date her and you get paid for the job, he might consider it a debt that you owe.

You need to be ready to let go of both.

muyico:
smile! U don buy market, by accepting d deal, or just try to carry her siblings along, explain everything to him! Or else ?? U wanna put put ya self in trouble u can't even explain how u get into

OP fear women...especially desperate ones. Don't joke with the counsel here. Samson was joking with Delilah until his two eyes were removed! Don't put fire in your bosom and go to sleep...she will work her way into your life, and show you hell afterwards for keeping her waiting!

JAOS:
It is of advantage to a man when the greater love in a relationship is from the woman op give her a chance stop playing hard to get

It will shock u that it may not be love...she has seen potential she wants to be associated with; she'd ruin it afterwards!

ibechris:
This ur style doesn't stop women from coming close.

If u are not interested in a woman,don't ever accept anything from her especially business deal from her brother. She will definitely tell those who care to listen to her that,she has helped u in ways she can't describe.

So,be careful before she start thinking juju for u.

He's playing with fire.

dkidd:

Lol don't chase her away angrily oo
Omor this thing funny die but to U I know it's very painful cos I been there a lot. The greatest mistake U will make is to knack her for whatever reasons. The day U try it is the day U buy Ur own coffin in the matter. No try am!!!
She's evil and is working on U. She may use that job to frustrate U but don't react angrily unnecessarily, forget about her intentions they're just what she's obsessed with always let her know her boundaries gently but with authority.

No dey act like say U dey consider her proposal

No dey act like it's affecting U by showing any form of emotions (-+) when she brings it up

And do not hate her for wanting U at least try mask am make she nor conclude say U hate her.

Some girls the moment they start being with U, Ur already their property. Na God save U say U never knack na sorry for be Ur name

Facts dwell in this message. OP, joke not with it!

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

First of all she's not a ghost and she can't haunt you. She can only stalk you. Then she sees you as her last hope in the world. She is obsessed with you. You accepted her offer to help you secure a job and now you are running from her. You'll soon run back into her arms. It's just a matter of time. you wanna chase away an evil spirit while still holding on to its property. How does that work? You said you had feelings towards her too but suddenly everything don die abi? There's some cut and in this story. Drop the job if you're truly not interested in her

happney65:
Eniti o ye kó kó epon fun kó gbe oju
Nonesense

werey re o... Ọmọ ayé

TimFisher2:



Both of you are right according to the angle you guys are standing.

Although I have responded to your debater, but the post is long.

Is up there...you can feel free to read.

Knacking every pussay doesn't make u hard or tough, it makes u unwise. Not every pussay u knack and not every pussay knacked deserve ur special attention.

Stay grounded

Better leave than religious fanatic alone, you are paying attention, you should not block her but ignore her and set boundaries, people like that are very dangerous, before you know it, she will go for juju, yes they are that desperate especially once they are under pressure to get married

Emperordynasty:


You are not being wise at all..
She doesn't even love you, she is only doing it cuz time is not in her side

And you too..you are enjoying the attention that's why you don't want to cut off completely
If you don't want to enter problem that you can't solve in years to come.. better avoid anything to do with her..if it requires leaving that job, better do so...cuz a desperate woman can go lengths...be wise oga

Exactly what I told him.
The lady has seen the innocence and softness in him and she want to manipulate him into marriage

Tell her you're in a very serious relationship and you and the girl took blood oat many years ago.

Connected1:

I have dated women and I currently don't have any nor want any in the next 5 years, I don't feel any attraction for her but I think she's confusing how I care about her for Love.

Because her Brother was even calling me his in-law when he saw me for the 1st time, omo I dae fear abeg.

See, U don marry this girl finish, all these your gra gra ,block and unblock no mean anything. She don go far for you. Na only God fit save you. So better reject the devil and all him work, the job offer inclusive, and run for your life.

CorrectionFLuid:


Don't paint everyone with the same bad brush you paint yourself with.

We are all the same exactly how all lions are the same

Hmmmm...

Connected1:

I have dated women and I currently don't have any nor want any in the next 5 years, I don't feel any attraction for her but I think she's confusing how I care about her for Love.

Because her Brother was even calling me his in-law when he saw me for the 1st time, omo I dae fear abeg .

You dey release truth bit by bit. So u done even reach this level? Ahhh ur matter done cross line be that and u still dey wait U done really marry but u don't know it yet. U better forget the job , her and her bro or else na hooking u dey so oh...Married man

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

This one is strong o.
You just fell for an entitled lady. You need wisdom to handle this kinda situation.
I think you should distance yourself from her regardless of what you're gaining from her brother. She's an emotional wreck of a lady. Falling in love with her will drain you emotionally, psychologically, socially and even spiritually. Why you actually start talking to her cos of what happened to her still beats me. Why should you be involved with someone who's not compatible with you beats me.
What are you still doing with her sef?!!

Connected1:

I have dated women and I currently don't have any nor want any in the next 5 years, I don't feel any attraction for her but I think she's confusing how I care about her for Love.

Because her Brother was even calling me his in-law when he saw me for the 1st time, omo I dae fear abeg.

Brother you know what to do.
I won't say more than this

dkidd:


I didn't want to respond but curiosity made me read ur contribution and all I can say is shiii...
I think most of u guys on here really don't know shii about the women around u. I saw u calling me soft because I advised him to refrain from sex with her. Now let me ask u what is the big deal with sex? Some of u guys run after pussay like u haven't hadit before. I guess u can't get laid easily without much efforts is why u are so moved by the prospects of smashing. Most of my life I hardly dated. I just fvck and move no feelings, I don't want to know u, bye. So I can say I'm still a lot colder than u can ever be to women but it's not a flex and i have outgrown a lot of stuff but there's still traces.

Beauty, tight pussay, curvy body doesn't move me anymore. Only immature kids in adults bodies see smashing as a trophy to be gotten. A girl obsessed with u is a ticking time bomb. I done date girl when be say to discharge her turn problem. Every time I try na threat to my life and hers. I had to apply divine wisdom. Another we were just fvckn each other no strings and before u know she started using the term baby this baby that, demanding kisses and sex without condoms, I had to let her go even if she had the best pussay I ever had. Yet another is assuming she's mine and when we fvck she always says how much she loves me, I don't like it but I say nothing and when she repeats it often I know it's time to cut her lose.

U don't play with certain things as a man that wants to go far in life. don't call me babe or love when we are just fvck buddies, don't profess love for me because we are fvckn and I don't bloody care how she feels except it's how my dick makes the pussay vibrate and quake. I don't do things I don't want to and because we dey knack no mean say we dey into any relationship! I am more concerned about what and who I let into my space. The sexing is just temporary and it's what I tell them from the onset and when she starts assuming and trying nonsense i'm out like a thief.

Knacking every pussay doesn't make u hard or tough, it makes u unwise. Not every pussay u knack and not every pussay knacked deserve ur special attention.

Stay grounded

If you understand my context, I wasn't even talking about sex bragging rights...

I didn't even attack you, I was trying to point out the facts why that guy should respect your decision because men differs...you might be soft or cold, hard or gentle

You might handle things diplomatically because of past experiences while the other guy might follow an unconventional route which everbody will still achieve result.

The last time I check, been a soft or gentle guy isn't a crime..so if you are soft and gentle, I don't think it is demeaning. Except you have another definition meaning of soft and gentle.

Maybe you can go back and re read my post...except you want to attack me for attacking sake.

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

I can guess how this woman look and behave hence ur displeasures about her...

1. She no get ynash
2. She dress like Mary amaka ...local thing no make up
3. She have body figure like man or transgender
4. She no fine ...not beautiful And presentable
5.she have hairy legs/ beards on her chest or face
6.she is so into u truly which is irritating u
7.she hardly dress sexy and apply make up however mild
8. She fit get body or mouth odour o
9. She look pitiful
10.she is to church church and prayer ....over religious......
11. She like hustling trying to do different things at a time without success...badluck
12....she comes for u bcus u can be her easy succor....


" There is no love, is only mutual benefit...

If ur wise u will marry this woman ......she will alwys feel ur her king and prince..........



" When a Nigerian woman feel so inadequate they begin to make themselves so cheap ......but when they feel adequate u will be the one running after them

For now do not focus on her or on the issue, try the soft way, ignore her, do not chat with her when she is lonely or at night, even in the day, create a huge space or boundary. After you have done the business, just diappear . I just hope you have not slept with her, already.

Then you need to be praying if you are the prayer type, because when some people are desperate they may go diabolical, they may run to spiritual houses seeking for solutions.

She seems stubborn which makes her set in her ways and dangerous too, she should have got the message, that your answer is no.

Be very careful, it is good to be kind and considerate but people can take that as a weakness.

MaziObinnaokija:
*Singing Love wan tintin ❤️ love wan tintin . Give her a chance . Use CD to enter the oil rig oo .Dnt impregnated her now make she nor show u her true color..U can date her for 6 months/1 year to knw bout her/attitude first.



Marriage/relationship isn't by FORCE .If u too aren't interested in her,finnd somebody and she'll move on

Destiny destroyer!

Hope u aren't a cultist ?
And want to use her to u,because u are powerful

okay fictional stories, so how many stories are fictional nowadays

But some wife's can control their husband's to fight their silly quarrels and if they kill someone they go to jailed

AngelicBeing:
Hehehehe, LoL at REALLY , it sounds like a FICTION

ediko5:


Exactly what I told him.
The lady has seen the innocence and softness in him and she want to manipulate him into marriage

Funny enough he still thinks he is in control,little by little he is being manipulated while telling himself that he doesn't love her .

A girl you are not inlove with or had anything with, but you have been spending for years on her..it's not long before she solidifies everything in marriage.

He will definitely marry out of the attention that she is showing,it's just time..and by the time she is settled and marriage she will make his life a living hell.because he is obviously not her first choice

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

Knife and bird are on your hands.

It's your choice to strike or not. And think about the consequences of either striking the bird or not striking that bird. Whichever you can live with, go ahead and make that choice.

No one is in the right position than your humble self to decide what to do brother.

Be kind to yourself and save yourself from unnecessary wahala.

And don't forget to factor in the reason you stubbornly refused to "shine her kongo"...

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

First, you are not in a relationship currently which means you are available for any willing serious lady to shoot her shot.

I think you may be confused because if you were 100% certain you will have nothing to do with her, you wouldn't have accepted putting yourself in such a precarious position as a job with her brother. She will most likely stop at nothing to ensure she keeps you as her man.

So, the answer to your question lies with you.
What do you actually want? If you know what you want, then you know what to do

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

If you believe in God, pls pray about it.
Love is a crazy thing. Can come from whom you don't want.


See erh, it's safer for a woman to move you more than you love her. (I understand you don't have anything for her for now)

Allow time to proof things. Tell her siblings your position in her life so that if you eventually find our she is not for you, it will be easy to walk about free of guilts.

Emperordynasty:

Funny enough he still thinks he is in control,little by little he is being manipulated while telling himself that he doesn't love her .

A girl you are not inlove with or had anything with, but you have been spending for years on her..it's not long before she solidifies everything in marriage.

He will definitely marry out of the attention that she is showing,it's just time..and by the time she is settled and marriage she will make his life a living hell.because he is obviously not her first choice

Baba you are very wise.

The game was well planned from day one by the mutual girlfriend that gave him the girl's number.

Girls don't joke with innocent, caring and soft men. For the guy to block, unblock and block the girl shows weakness on his side and the girl is aware. Gradually he's gonna fall for the girl out of pity or out of the attention - it will start by just giving her a chance.

From the story, that girl is definitely a street girl that have cast in her location and those kind of ladies don't joke with innocent, caring and soft men.

I've come across ladies like this and they approach me with manipulative method because of my gentle appearance

Connected1 be wise o

Manage the situation till you achieve your aim, on the job, then block her straight.

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.