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Princepioneer(m): 1:53pm On Jun 07
Dtruthspeaker:


Bros, sorry o, I no believe you. You know how much you don bleed troway already?

Men no dey troway money for woman wey dem no penetrate. And from the way you still allow her hang around you, e be like say you dey collect release
Don't too doubt him on this...No be everybody wey this sex dey shark for head,bro...✌️

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ediko5(m): 1:53pm On Jun 07
JAOS:
It is of advantage to a man when the greater love in a relationship is from the woman op give her a chance stop playing hard to get

Not in all case.
Many are manipulation and not love.
dkidd: 1:54pm On Jun 07
ELKHALIFAISIS:
You are going mad for someone you claimed you don't have any feelings for ... Oga find another story tell ... Guy man dey run from free kitten I don't know whether you think you are talking to secondary school children

It's obvious ur still a small learner in a big game. No worry life go teach u lesson no man ever will... Every body must get sense by force. Keep browsing all kpekus till u see wetin u dey find grin

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ikorodureporta: 1:55pm On Jun 07
cheesy grin
Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.
jayAjoku(m): 1:56pm On Jun 07
nah bro that will make the girl want to be in his good graces even more
Mrexcell:



Or he can even arrange a girl that will claim to be his serious girlfriend that will permanently chase her away most ladies are more scared of their own fellow female gender. grin
Negroic9(m): 1:56pm On Jun 07
Do your investigation well,consult elders not pastors
Real love is scarce out there,
Don't miss opportunity to settle down.

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ikorodureporta: 1:56pm On Jun 07
U dey run from wife
Marry.. Marry..
doncartel: 1:57pm On Jun 07
Just tell her that you did not want to tell her the truth: that you are married with 2 children.

And your wife and children stay with your elder sister in another state and you visit them every 3 or 4 months.
: 1:59pm On Jun 07
brain54:
You really don't like her o... grin

You didn't say if you were in a relationship. Or your reasons you aren't into her

Don't be pressured into a relationship you don't want to be in!
That girl is very very unattractive.. period grin
nothing u wan tell me grin
TimFisher2: 1:59pm On Jun 07
Connected1:


To be honest eh, I am always glad I never asked her out for fun or whatever neither did I ever have sex with her and she has been hiding under the mask of being a strong Christian.

She's very manipulative but it's well, we learn everyday.


Do you know why she is chasing you by all means. Because you got the bag. Imagine if you are poor or hustling, do you think, she will look your face, even when you might be professing real love or seeing both of having a family.

You don't even know how good and rich, your school friend must have said to her, that made her start seeing future marriage with you.

When your school friend told you 3 years ago, that there is a friend, she wants you to keep company,

You didn't ask her, whether she broke up with her boyfriend, which made her start looking for which available man will heal her emotionally and financially

no lady will go into dating with you except there is something she tends to benefit.

Based on your last Statement, God's knows I hate a pretentious and a manipulative woman.

Now, thinking of losing a contract base on her brother, be firm and outspoken. Let it be known that everyone will benefit from it..don't mix it with marriage, even when they might try to mix it together...because if you do, and the marriage or relationship fails, she will rush to CNN and tell the whole world, she was the one that made you who you are.

Do not fear to lose the contract, because it is not the end..rather you must fear if you make a wrong choice of partner, not only will it break your soul, emotionally and financially, that will be the end of your demise!

Bye Bye.

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LilMissFavvy(f): 1:59pm On Jun 07
Some women are not wise, imagine forcing yourself on a man, how would such a marriage work out?
ELKHALIFAISIS(m): 2:00pm On Jun 07
dkidd:


It's obvious ur still a small learner in a big game. No worry life go teach u lesson no man ever will... Every body must get sense by force. Keep browsing all kpekus till u see wetin u dey find grin
Oga rest the time I started seeing life U still dey suck Ur mama breasts, I don see all size and colour of pu££y , white , black yellow, moreover I don see marriage even before you still struggling... Talk wetin man fit listen , this Ur talk no make up.. as guy man wey don see things , no man go see opportunity to knack woman he never knackered before and he won't exploit that opportunity, U think say nah children u dey talk to ... Unless this is one of nairaland cock and bullshit stories to drive traffic..
: 2:01pm On Jun 07
WantsandMore:
you need both, don’t be deluded, a relationship that works is one where a man chases his dreams while a woman chases his attention/affection and love and protection and everything fits. “Tell her you want to date her on trial/probation” see how she reacts
na to make matter worse be that o
Alfred200825(m): 2:01pm On Jun 07
Meat wey person nor dey chop, e nor suppose use teeth share am. Stop sending the wrong signals to her...
ezelos(m): 2:06pm On Jun 07
I can see you are a nice guy. But don't marry out of pity.
joedejoe: 2:06pm On Jun 07
Bros please, let me ask you these questions. I do not mean to vilify you but to assist you analyse your actions and inactions.
1. What was your intention when you collected her from a Course mate friend? Are you a Pastor that wants to pray and counsel down with some issues in life? Are you a Guardian and Counsellor or Freelance companion? There must be something in it for you to accept to be talking with a lady, giving her money at will etc.

2. Since you disdain her so much, what comes to your mind when you are doling out your hard earned money to her at will? Do you feel you are giving to a beggar or donating to charity?

3. Why do you revert to her after unblocking her even when you do not have any feeling or even likeness for her?

4. If you are not doing anything with her, you have no feeling for her and you are not interested in her, why are you still keeping her s?
5. Block and delete her from all platforms and if you care about her financial predicament, through a third party without mentioning your name.

Thank you

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Heavensake1: 2:08pm On Jun 07
Make the lady put pressure abeg. Some men don't know what they want.
AngelicBeing: 2:09pm On Jun 07
advocatejare:
Really?
Hehehehe, LoL at REALLY , it sounds like a FICTIONtongue

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Emperordynasty: 2:09pm On Jun 07
Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

You are not being wise at all..
She doesn't even love you, she is only doing it cuz time is not in her side

And you too..you are enjoying the attention that's why you don't want to cut off completely
If you don't want to enter problem that you can't solve in years to come.. better avoid anything to do with her..if it requires leaving that job, better do so...cuz a desperate woman can go lengths...be wise oga

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Dtruthspeaker: 2:11pm On Jun 07
Princepioneer:
Don't too doubt him on this...No be everybody wey this sex dey shark for head,bro...✌️

Sex fit no shack some people but according to how guys dey hala, to dey loose money to girl dey pain well well so dem no dey do am
Afolashade00(f): 2:12pm On Jun 07
Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.


I rarely comment here, just calm down, you’re not being haunted.
That lady likes you, she is the kind of person that will stand by you no matter the situation.
Since you don’t like her , it’s all good but stop saying she is haunting you that’s demeaning.
It’s a pity you don’t love who loves you and it’s okay.
Almost everyone has/will experience this, I pray we don’t learn the hard way .
I pray she finds someone who will reciprocate her love and if it is you , I pray the universe connects you two.
Here is my two cents.
Thank you .
CaptainFM1: 2:18pm On Jun 07
Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

Change your line
dkidd: 2:20pm On Jun 07
ELKHALIFAISIS:
Oga rest the time I started seeing life U still dey suck Ur mama breasts, I don see all size and colour of pu££y , white , black yellow, moreover I don see marriage even before you still struggling... Talk wetin man fit listen , this Ur talk no make up.. as guy man wey don see things , no man go see opportunity to knack woman he never knackered before and he won't exploit that opportunity , U think say nah children u dey talk to ... Unless this is one of nairaland cock and bullshit stories to drive traffic..

Plenty talk no dey full basket... U have no experience with women obviously. U are just another tool in the hands of any willing banny. Lol if i dey suck breast when u see life then u must be Methuselah. Not every guy man is still easily swayed by kpekus especially not the ones who have truly seen it all Mr all types of pussay

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Smithwilliams826: 2:22pm On Jun 07
Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.
u dey lucky na only frustration she wan frustrate u.
My side no clear at all. 1 don they threaten me with juju... Matter plenty. Avoid them. Destruction. Confusion.
WantsandMore: 2:24pm On Jun 07
:

na to make matter worse be that o
yes now, a mysterious man is a good man in women’s world
dkidd: 2:24pm On Jun 07
Afolashade00:



I rarely comment here, just calm down, you’re not being haunted.
That lady likes you, she is the kind of person that will stand by you no matter the situation.
Since you don’t like her , it’s all good but stop saying she is haunting you that’s demeaning.
It’s a pity you don’t love who loves you and it’s okay.
Almost everyone has/will experience this, I pray we don’t learn the hard way .
I pray she finds someone who will reciprocate her love and if it is you , I pray the universe connects you two.
Here is my two cents.
Thank you .

Lol she's obsessed and that is trouble. As a girl have u ever met a guy ur just friendly and close with but he goes about claiming ur his babe? Even says things to u that suggest ur both an item when ur not even dating? Make una dey talk the truth and stop pushing someone into fire. Such girls don't love they possess and can be very dangerous most times

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suckprick: 2:28pm On Jun 07
Connected1:

I have a lot of women profess love for me, to be honest I don't even know how to ask a woman out again because they mostly do it these days but this lady in question don't want to take No for an Answer.

I don't need a woman's love, I need finances and connections.

I wanted to call you a kid but as I saw this post, I calmed down. Be like say you get sense small.
TimFisher2: 2:31pm On Jun 07
ELKHALIFAISIS:
Oga rest the time I started seeing life U still dey suck Ur mama breasts, I don see all size and colour of pu££y , white , black yellow, moreover I don see marriage even before you still struggling... Talk wetin man fit listen , this Ur talk no make up.. as guy man wey don see things , no man go see opportunity to knack woman he never knackered before and he won't exploit that opportunity, U think say nah children u dey talk to ... Unless this is one of nairaland cock and bullshit stories to drive traffic..


Although your conversation doesn't concern me, but I was forced to chip in.


See...let me tell you Mr Man..all men differs, you might be a rugged man that doesn't send..if we want die, make we die,..if we want poto poto make we poto poto, a lot girls tends to run away from such men, because they know this one na mad man...which gives you the advantage of chopping who ever comes your way.


But In this scenario, I am talking about some men that are calm and collected, in which the original poster (OP) of this topic falls under, and maybe including the person you are debating with...these kind of men are soft, they might not have the we-withdrawal to stop a woman's madness or advances when they have price market, because he that price must buy.

And women knows this soft men and becomes dominant over their life, especially coming from a woman that wants to be with you, she will do everything humanly possible to be in your life.

Have you asked yourself, while some women....men got pregnant will go extra mile carry their belongings and be living with the man without even bride price, while some women won't even try knock the guys house if the guy failed to it the pregnancy or even want to do anything with the woman.

You are right, and your debater is right too. Infact both of your are right according to the angle you guys are looking at it.

So for the soft men, the worst thing that will happen to them is to have a sexual intercourse with who they are not really into, except maybe the lady doesn't want you.

I ed during my University days, we saw a lot of things at the student's lodge..some girlfriends where slapping their boyfriends. Lol. Why these particular girls won't even lift their finger at a guy wey dey mad. Girl's are very observant, take it or leave it..and they know the kind of men, they mess up with.

That's why it boils down on a woman that will rush and break the man's home appliances, big screen, kitchen utensils and the rest because of little misunderstanding which you know it do happen all the time. but funnily no lady will do that to me, because I cherish all these...you can talk, shout but don't touch any of my thing, because if you do, don't worry I won't even beat you. I will be smiling with you while waiting till midnight for me to bury you inside the sitting room. Lol.

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Chickensoup: 2:35pm On Jun 07
Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.
Bro its either you have feelings for her or you have sympathy for her. You will ruin your life if you continue to play this game with her. end it and move on. What helps in such a situation is that i imagine if the roles were reversed and you were the one going after her without money, will she end it with you or not. She can get really aggressive later in the future and if you end up impregnating her, her real nature will show.

Its all about the money not love.

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Cmeo(m): 2:36pm On Jun 07
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I have a lot of women profess love for me, to be honest I don't even know how to ask a woman out again because they mostly do it these days but this lady in question don't want to take No for an Answer.


Look at you. Be happy that you got a lady who loves you and work very well. When you are properly loved, you will get the finances and connections, but when you married and your woman does not love you, even it will be difficult to connect or make finances, you will even forget any dream that you could have just to have your peace. If she is not a glutton, has the beauty and character, find a place to love her in your heart and let love leads.

But before you finally let her into your heart, let her know your liabilities and bigger dreams and how highly committed to it. Play down your current worth and hrr expectations of your worth compared to your future dreams and tell her you won't compromise on anything to achieve it. Ask her if she is ready for tough times with you. If you are ok with her responses and her family show you love and for your little beginning, wife her.

I was in a scenario like this years back and it's one of the best decisions I took.
Fattprince23: 2:37pm On Jun 07
Bryancrox:
The girl saw a nice guy and wants to secure her future with you, I ire your discipline towards her by not having sex with her or dating her out of pity, some guys for Nairaland for dor knack her wetin nor good. But you should block her and never let her sub stories get to you, move on with your life. if you can't do that get two dulls write your name on one and her name on the other, wash them together with ogogoro, throw one at elegushi beach then the other at elekun beach, after that she will hate you for life and never get back to you again, trust me.
First what is dulls, or you mean dolls? Second what if I want the girl to like me what will I do?
Afolashade00(f): 2:37pm On Jun 07
dkidd:


Lol she's obsessed and that is trouble. As a girl have u ever met a guy ur just friendly and close with but he goes about claiming ur his babe? Even says things to u that suggest ur both an item when ur not even dating? Make una dey talk the truth and stop pushing someone into fire. Such girls don't love they possess and can be very dangerous most times

She is naive, she should have just kept all those things to herself, it would have saved her a lot.
What do you mean obsessed? Have you dated her at all to come to this conclusion?
Yes, she expressed herself, is it a bad thing to express yourself?
If it is a girl you love that profess all that to you , won’t you be happy?
The only thing here is that you don’t love her and that’s okay.
I hope she finds someone who will love her without judging her .
Since you don’t love her it’s okay, just remove the whole haunting/obsession tag , that’s ridiculous.
I can’t imagine one being label all sorts of name in the name of love.
It is not your fault , I hope she learns and save her energy for the one who cares.

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