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themanderon:

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Did you watch the video at all? He pays for the house. In all these Western countries women are usually favoured far above the men. That is why many Nigerians usually resort to killing their wives over there
I have seen the story of a man who spent years struggling and when he wanted to marry he came down here and picked a wife. He trained her as a nurse over there and when she started making money all hell was let loose and the man was thrown out of the house he suffered to own and all he laboured for including his kids. He just went and acquired a gun and blasted her to hell where he feels she belongs and called the cops to report himself.
Did you not see what happened to Emmanuel Ebue formally of Arsenal FC. He lost all he labored for to his white wife.
Women have control over the men over there and can ruin a man who is not careful. See the case of Mason Greenwood of Man utd and Benjamin Mendy of man city. They were ruined by women.

Exousiang01:
Going through these comments compared to the responses OP would have gotten ifbhe asked this question on reditt gives me goose bumps.
Just one person has been able to say something reasonable.
I can guarantee you these lame comments came from youths.....
The average Nigerian youth has lost all ability to think right and it is Just painful.
Seun your Nairaland is becoming less than 2go.
I personally spend more time one platforms like Reddit where I am sure people use their brains.
It's pitiful

my brother as eh, if you know you don't have anything to contribute, just through. But no, they must just say one rubbish or the other to catch cruise. No meaningful contribution whatsoever. In my case, am not too familiar with Reddit, I prefer qoura, I have learnt so much over there. I come to nairaland just for national headlines, but the comment section is a classroom full of kindergartens

All this Obi ers are masturbating on the current hardships in country because their messiah obi didn't win. Na dem ship drugs but it's to call the president a drug dealer na it them know. They wish the whole government should burn to ashes to placate their misplaced grievances. Even if Obi had won, there's nothing he would have done differently. That's how hausas saw Buhari as a messiah for over 10 years until he won and disappointed everyone. No politician can change Nigeria within 8 years.

Goalnaldo:
Sincerely I wonder why 98% of people become sworn enemies with their ex. Me and my ex still chats once a while and if she tags me to her marriage in future, I'll wish her well. Maybe this one own do am strong things as I saw in one of the comments there.

bro it depends on how you guys ended. Are you still going to be friends with an ex that cheated on you?

I watched only one episode of the show last December. Kai, no be small matter. Did guy really see shege for the woman hand. I saying may God not make me marry old oyinbo woman because of visa. If not for visa, wetin I wan carry stubborn oyinbo wey don age to born pikin. Chai, if you ever watched the show, you go no say oyinbo women stubborn die.

See as everyone is just bashing the guy. African ladies have been marrying for visa since as long as I . Some even get married to the guys photo and when they go over to see him, they find out he is a dwarf, or physically challenged. They say with him long enough to find their feet and then divorce him. Abroad is filled with women who are divorced from the man that took them there. Na today? Op, just chill, ok. Stay with her for a while until you find your feet and then divorce her since you're clearly not attracted to her. Nobody should guilt trip you, women do it all the time. Women use men to climb the the social ladder, but when a man does it, he is evil.

dkidd:


See wetin u miss

na wc crypto app be this guy?

dkidd:
U can still buy with ur card and sell via spot wallet still credited to ur card

what if I have crypto in Coinbase, how do I get it to drop in my Nigerian bank

My boss had called me several times today and it didn't go. There were some dignitaries at the government house today and I know I would have followed him there. Chai I missed, MTN una do shege. Less than 15 mins ago, he called me in my presence and it still didn't go through. Issues

Kobojunkie:
Why were you peeking through her window though? Is this like a habit of yours or what?

you ehn, when normal people are thinking towards the right, yours is always towards the left. Are you now accusing him of being a peeping tom or some pervert? Is he not her big brother?So if he hears screams as if she was being strangled, he should ignore it? That she has the audacity to bring a man to the family house to have sex with her show total disregard for any form of constituted authority. You think the married man with 3 kids will abandon his family for her? He is just using her to catch fun. Her brother knows and he just wants to protect her image and dignity. We are in Nigeria and not America, all these liberalism and progressive life you wanna champion have real-life consequences. Stop deceiving people to think that they wouldn't going to be held able for their actions. Shey if you see a 5 yrs old boy watching porn, you won't reprimand him? And before you say they are adults, the prison yard is filled with adults who have no sense of direction and self control.

Chai, I hate it when some Nigerian men meet good women aboard and use them. Shey una dey see, if a guy or girl says that they don't want to get involved with someone who already has a child, people will start blasting that person. Na becos of yeye issues like this.

There's something I have noticed in some threads about marriage and infidelity that amuses me. When a man is guilt tripped to ignore his wife's unfaithfulness for the sake of keeping a marriage. Why should I care about something she wasn't scared of destroying? And the threat that my own kids would be used against me so I better comply. Of course I believe in maintaining a family, but at what cost? Try oyinbo women and see, them no dey forgive cheating, in fact na wetin dem dey pray make u do make them show you shege. E be like this single wey I dey na enjoyment I dey ooo I no know. I swear if I put babe Belle, na just to lock up be that, because at the end na bullshit just dey everywhere. It's seems it's unmarried people that over idealize marriage, make I just dey my own, I no get wife sef wey pesin go bleep. If no be societal pressure sef, and to get pikin, why would I expose myself to nonsense wey go con make my head dey shake.

For one crime reported and recorded, there are many swept under the carpet. See eh, as a man the day you start to do things with impunity, like nothing will happen is the day of your downfall. Even if you want to mess around, go far and do it. Not close to home where it can be used against you. And know that you flex babes who agree for you not forcing yourself on someone. Know your limits. Even if he was set up or its politically motivated, shey na him give them space? Some big men should know that you can't have your way all the time. Forget seduction, no woman can force your preek into her vjay. Na you put am yourself, deal with the consequences. And for those saying it's persecution, come go the north and see persecution. Stop aiding and abetting people who use Christianity as a disguise to do nonsense. Aren't Catholic priests aboard jailed for the same offences, their own sef na young boys. Let's not pretend as if we don't know what's up, big men in Nigeria use their position to flex babes, ogas in the office, lecturers, doctors, politicians even course rep for school. We too carry sex for head, we grow up to see men wey dey carry babes like enjoyment people. But society has advanced, things that were condoled in our grandparents time now is no longer ignored. As a modern man, you must know how to control your sexual desires, if not it can cost you.

Everybody has a past but some kind of past is too much. Former stripper ke. You don't wanna know the kind of things she must have done. It's better he withdraws from marrying her than tomorrow he starts using it against her. My problem with Naija girls is that after yeye life they will still wan marry. Oyinbo stripper dey marry someone in the same industry with her, but Naija girls will do bullshit and still wan marry one innocent guy. If as a lady your body count is higher than mine as a man forget it, I know say that they will want to hide but I will make it a top priority to know if you're serious about settling down. I don't want surprises, or embarrassing gossip about my wife. Abeg I no like insult and Okafor's law.

ogbonti:


If you follow my threads you will know I AM A VERY CONSERVATIVE person - however - what I will never accept is you coming on public space to demonize a single mother who never got pregnant by herself BUT is made to suffer the consequences of what she did with someone with or without her consent - yes, you can make your own choice, about who to marry and who not to marry - thats entirely your decision, BUT do not call others who see life differently from your myopic view as prostitute enablers. IF your wisdom about women was derived from Maury Paternity show, I pity your poor parents who suffered and toiled to raise you ONLY to have your perception about LIFE and WOMEN skewed by a TV SHOW. And because I have an opinion that single mothers should not be demonized, I am now a prostitute sympathizer? So whoever gives birth while unmarried is A PROSTITUTE and YOU WHO SLEPT WITH A FEMALE WITHOUT BEING MARRIED TO HER UNDER THE GUISE OF DATING IS NOT A PROSTITUTE? you see how foolish your assertions are? na people like you go born daughters full ground, then you will this thread - good night from AMERICA!!!

Bro I will end this here not becos I don't have anything else to say, but since it has reached to the point that Almighty you is now pitying my parents dead or alive, I won't reply you again.

ogbonti:


My Perfection Misogynist - I greet you

shey you see you people, you think calling a man a misogynist or chauvinist for stating his mind changes anything? So you wanna coerce us to do want we don't agreed to by shaming and labelling. So all women are innocent perfect angels abi? Go and watch Paternity Court with Judge Lauren Lake, or The Murray Show. Rest abeg, marry a prostitute if you want. They are still conservative people who have standards, and we didn't come to this earth to please nobody

ogbonti:


bro you can't gaslight [YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CHOSE TO GAS LIGHT SINGLE MOTHERS BECAUSE YOU HAVE A WEIRD SENSE OF CATEGORIZING EVERY LADY WHO UNFORNATELY BECAME A SINGLE MOTHER AS IRRESPONSIBLE AND TOTALLY USELESS FORGETTING THE FACT THAT MANY ARE VICTIMS OF CIRCUMSTANCES - WHAT IF SHE WAS RAPED AS A KID, AND BECAUSE SHE WAS NAIVE AND ASHAMED SHE DIDNT TELL HER PARENTS AND WHEN IT WAS DISCOVERED, THE PARENTS BEING RELIGIOUS DECIDED THAT AS LONG AS THE PERSON WHO DID IT IS IDENTIFIED, SHE SHOULD HAVE THE BABY BECAUSE SHE IS AN ONLY CHILD AND THEY ARE SCARED OF LOSING HER THROUGH ABORTION - SO ALL OF A SUDDEN THIS UNFORTUNATE GIRL SHOULD NEVER BE LOVED OR MARRIED AGAIN IN LIFE? ARE YOU OK, MR. PERFECT?] people to think that just because a girl isn't a baby mama means she is a serial abortionists.[MR. PERFECT, I ONLY BROUGHT THAT ARGUMENT TO COUNTER YOURS (WHICH IS A BRAZEN FACT) - BECAUSE YOU HAVE WRITTEN AN EPISTLE DEMONIZING SINGLE MOTHERS LIKE THEY SOME ROTTEN BACK OF TOMATOES OR STINKING SEWAGE AND NEVER DESERVING TO BE MARRIED TO ANYONE ELSE BUT A MAN WHO MADE THEM MOTHERS] Abeg, if you don spoil don't think everyone is like that.[HERE YOU GO AGAIN, EVEN AS A MAN- YOU CALL ME SPOILED BECAUSE YOUR HYPOCRISY KNOWS NO BOUNDS- ARE YOU A VIRGIN? I GUESS YOU ARE NOT AND IF YOU HAVE HAD SEX WITH A FEMALE, WITH OR WITHOUT PROTECTION, YOU ARE GUILTY OF POTENTIALLY MAKING THAT FEMALE A BABY MAMA, WE SHOULD KILL YOU BECAUSE YOUR ANIMALISTIC ACT TO SATISFY YOUR URGE WITH A FEMALE WHO IS NOT YOUR WIFE MUST BE CRIMINALIZED? ARE YOU OK?] So now single mothers are the saints now abi? [NO ONE SAID THEY ARE, NO ONE IS PEFECT IN LIFE -INCLUDING YOU WHO THINKS SINGLE MOTHERS DO NOT DESERVE A CHANCE TO GET MARRIED EVER IN THEIR LIVES] If they were all perfect as you claim, why don't their baby daddy stay with them in the first place? [IT TAKES 2 PEOPLE TO AGREE TO BECOME MARRIED- SO SINGLE MOTHERS SHOULD BE KILLED BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE VICTIMS MEN WHO PROMISED TO BRING DOWN HEAVEN AND MOVE MOUNTAINS, MARRY HER AND DO EVERYHTING JUST TO GET IN HER PANTS, BUT ONCE SHE BECAME PREGNANT HE BOLTS AWAY - SO SHE MUST BE PUNISHED FOR THE MAN'S IRRESPONSIBILITY?] Abeg nothing you go talk, [MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH DAUGHTERS OR AT LEAST ONE DAUGHTER AND WHEN LIFE HAPPENS TO HER AND SHE BECOMES A SINGLE MOTHER- PLEASE THROW HER INTO THE LAGOON BECAUSE YOU CAN NOT STAND HER AS NO ONE ELSE SHOULD MARRY HER] whenever there's single mother matter, they are always guys like you who wanna make everybody feel bad because they don't wanna get involved in a mess they didn't help create . So my ex that cheated and got pregnant for someone else, it's me now that doesn't deserve her? WOW!!! THIS IS WHERE ALL YOUR ANGER IS COMING FROM AND IT HAS MADE YOU ABANDON YOUR BRAIN IN REASONING PROBABLY -YOU HAVE NOT HEALED FROM THE REJECTION SHE PUT YOU THROUGH WHEN SHE WAS NOT YET A SINGLE MOTHER, HENCE THIS HATE YOU EXHIBIT HERE, YOU BETTER SO SEE A PSYCHIATRIST OR PSYCHLOGIST TO WEEN YOU OUT OF HATE - I rest my case because by your own ission - you are arguing from the angle of unchecked emotions, not rationality][/b]Chai, don't introject your issues to everyone. OK from now hence forth, every woman should have 3 kids first before marriage, since they are the best abi? Your yeye dey smell. When educated people are building their careers una dey sleep around, now you wanna guilt trip everyone. Women are so choosy when it comes to selecting a mate, but God forbid a man wants to choose

OK defender in chief of baby mama, keep making excuses for everybody. If you like write a book, we know better. Everything in life are a choice, you're not supposed to be having unprotected sex with someone you are not married to, period. Anything you see after that just take. And the % of single mothers who were raped is nothing compared to those who did it willingly. And you who is talking, you think a career woman who has a good job will wanna marry you as a baby daddy with 3 kids from 3 different women? Lol dey play

sharone21:


Do anything that works for you.... Know that sometimes it is what people hate most in life that they see.....

This type of relationship is not for everyone.

A man can marry and tomorrow he is no more or divorces and his wife becomes single mum and another man marries her with the children, so taking care of the late man's children or the divorcees kids is bad?

That's why the whites are different. They will pick someone anywhere and raise like their kids.....

. A woman whose husband is late or she got divorced is a total different thing. But a girl who has never been married giving birth to a child in her parents house is something else. I am from Cross River state, come my village to see bullshit, I don't have to marry a single mother if I were interested in raising someone's kids. Half of my cousins are babymamas, we in Africa we are too broke to adopt oyinbo life. They have social security, food stamps, child payments and all that. Here if you mess up your life, that's all forever, suffering till thy kingdom come.

sharone21:


Thanks, don't mind all these African reasoning.

Matthew Perry, who acted in Friends sitcom wished he had a single mum with child that he was dating and married.... He was too lonely despite being comfortable and resorted to more alcohol... Died at only 54yrs.

What about superstar rapper Eve who married single dad ( white)with 4 kids already and she is the only OUTSIDER( using Nairaland men's word)? Or Ashanti pregnant for single dad Nelly?

Sometimes marriages we bet will work out will not even work out at all: See Israel and his virgin wife..... What about Nairaland Virgin preacher, Jerome Starks that disvirgined his virgin and dumped her in the streets, maybe searching for another virgin in the North( lol).

Do what works for you( according to our Naija Comedians), don't listen to anybody.... Pray and go ahead.... Ask God too for money..... Lack of money causes a lot of stupid talks.

So if am dating a girl who isn't a single mother, I should breakup with her and marry single mother abi? Since they are the best. Shey Michelle Obama na single mother? Beyonce is also single mother abi? You wanna gaslight everyone to think that single mothers are the best we could ever have, if they were so perfect why did their baby daddy leave in the first place. You call it African mentality, when white people are building careers before having kids. Even bad boys go for good girls, no amount of gaslighting will change our minds. Everything changed in the 2000s, as a kid growing up, no contraceptives or condoms, yet they were very few single mothers. If they talk about absentince before marry, you will wanna crucify us, but immediately you become baby mama, everybody should sympathize with you. As far as my prick is functional, then I will prefer to have my own kids.

ogbonti:



Something or experience must humble a person in life to see life from a mature perspective - you too as a man - when you were in your early 20's having 6 packs - wearing pencil troussers - carrying weight - playing soccer for 2 hours non stop all that energy - all that confidence - there were people too you were doing shakara for - BUT when the natural changes to your body comes in - maturity sets in - you concede some of your ego and that does not make you less of a human being, does it? who will not grow old ? who can say for certainty that changes will not happen to their body ? And if you are not humble enough to take her for who she is and you think "because she is now a single mother and you rub that on her a face as "a bargaining chip or means to demean her" - IT MEANS YOU NEVER DESERVED HER IN THE FIRST PLACE.

I asked a question which you could not answer - just because a lady gave birth and became a single mother - does that mean your wife you married who was not a single mother did not engage in multiple abortions before she met you ? As long as you didn't meet a girl as a virgin - there is 90% chances she has had at least 1 or 2 abortions or more, before she met you - do not be blinded by that innocent looks of some girls - you will be amazed how many of them have 3 to 4 abortions in their relationships and reckless life CV- not to talk of the body counts

Only in Nigeria dating a single mother is a taboo - to all of you guys who want to japa - the best ladies in the diaspora who will treat you with respect and give you that peace of mind and bring in the maturity that will help u get settled and achieve your goals overseas are most single mothers - probably those whose kids are already above 18 years old - all that sweet 16 oyinbo girls you fantasize about will lead you to your doom - na me talk am - take care, am done debating childish foolishness - of being a single mother is a death sentence - coming from a guy whose current girlfriend may have had 5 abortions and above 500 men body count - mshewwwww i hate nansense

bro you can't gaslight people to think that just because a girl isn't a baby mama means she is a serial abortionists. Abeg, if you don spoil don't think everyone is like that. So now single mothers are the saints now abi? If they were all perfect as you claim, why don't their baby daddy stay with them in the first place? Abeg nothing you go talk, whenever there's single mother matter, they are always guys like you who wanna make everybody feel bad because they don't wanna get involved in a mess they didn't help create. So my ex that cheated and got pregnant for someone else, it's me now that doesn't deserve her? Chai, don't introject your issues to everyone. OK from now hence forth, every woman should have 3 kids first before marriage, since they are the best abi? Your yeye dey smell. When educated people are building their careers una dey sleep around, now you wanna guilt trip everyone. Women are so choosy when it comes to selecting a mate, but God forbid a man wants to choose

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ogbonti:




You dey make me laugh. === PLEASE LAFF NA YOUR NATURAL RIGHT

1.You dey talk about Love. A woman's love is conditional and the condition here is she dey find man wey go carry responsibility of her and her children. ==== WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THE WOMAN BRINGS NOTHING TO THE TABLE? WHAT TYPE OF WOMEN HAVE YOU BEEN DEALING WITH ? I HAVE HAD QUALITY WOMEN IN MY LIFE WHO DID MORE FOR ME THAN I EVER DID FOR THEM FINANCIALLY

2. The kids know who their real father is. AKA Dad is just an investor, that's why they gotta bond with him. ==== WHAT MAKES YOU THINK SO? HAVE YOU READ ABOUT MARIO BALOTELLI FOR INSTANCE? WHO WILL SAVE HIS ADOPTED FATHER THAN HIS NATURAL FATHER IF BOTH WERE IN DANGER ? OGA STOP LIVING IN A BUBBLE, LIFE IS NOT MATHEMATICS

3. She knows he is a SIMP....and she is running out of time. ===== AND THE MAN WHO MARRIES A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT LOVE HIM IS NOT A SIMP?

4. Dating and Marriage is not the same. A man will enjoy dating but suffer in marriage.====== WHEN A WOMAN CHOSES YOU SHE WILL MAKE LIFE EASY AND GREAT FOR YOU - WHEN YOU CHOSE A WOMAN YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN - THAT IS WHY WISE PEOPLE WILL TELL YOU IT IS BETTER FOR THE WOMAN TO LOVE THE MAN MORE THAN THE MAN LOVES THE WOMAN FOR MARRIAGE TO WORK

5. The only part I agree with you is that it is his life and he is free to make is gaddam choice. ===== EXACTLY, HE WEARS THE SHOES- HE KNOWS WHERE IT PINCHES - MARYAM ABACHA HAD A SON FOR SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE HE MARRIED LATE HEAD OF STATE - GEN.SANNI ABACHA- THAT DID NOT STOP HER AND ABACHA HAVING ABOUT 10 MORE CHILDREN TOGETHER - - EVEN THE FIRST SON FOR ANOTHER MAN BORE THE NAME ABACHA AS HIS LAST NAME - AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY AS ONE FAMILY AND 25 YEARS AFTER HIS DEATH, MARYAM HAS NOT MARRIED ANOTHER MAN - THATS LOVE, THATS RESPECT --- WILL YOUR WOMAN WHO DIDNT HAVE A CHILD FOR SOME ONE ELSE BEFORE YOU MARRIED HER BE THAT LOYAL TO YOU EVEN IN DEATH ?

Thanks for the discuss - God bless you

. All this talk for baby mama? Abeg if she wasn't a babymama, would she have agreed for that guy? Guy it seems you have no idea of what single mothers are capable of. My ex is a single mother, you need to see the kind of shakara she used to do when she never born. Like she was doing me a favor by dating me, but now as babymama Na she humble . Women will do anything to get a guy to commit when she has already has had kids

Smile4me01:
Some judge don't know their left and right in the profession how can she totally condemned custom of a particular tribe that exists before her clients choose to go their for marriage, even constitution go in line with custom and tradition that's why we have migistrate and customary court and Hausa and Fulani go farther to have Sharia law that even incorporated into Nigeria constitution i believe the magistrate is only bitter with the distinct law that keeps marriage strongly valid in south east that never exist in her region that custom must remain in our region to keep family united and give woman and their family value in the society.

guy there something called the repugnancy test when it comes to customary law. Look it up on Google. Are you anyway a law student or offered any course in Nigerian Legal Systems? Please don't expose your ignorance here

RisenObinna:


Wow, really?
And you know all these and you're crying foul for children that 'ashawo' Igbo girls born that your lazy and poor wretched self can't afford to pay her bride prize?

And as for your story, if you want list, I can give you list of Yoruba girls bleeped not for big money but for peanuts and you're opening mouth.

Abeg getat

abeg rest. You assume I am Yoruba abi? Na so una no get sense reach. Una mumu custom and tradition doesn't freak anybody. Emeka Ike don expose how wicked and heartless una women be. Go and ask Dr Stan on Twitter. How much be the brideprice sef, more than the amount the man has used to take care of the kids over the years? Igbo girls don't have any form of exclusive value anymore. We see una for who una be, greedy and materialistic. And I no go ever mistake marry Igbo girl, make she no con use greed scatter my family. But as sidechick, Na sure thing. I go bleep am, con give you make you con pay heavy brideprice. Wait fess, wetin dey do una? Una no fit born una own pekin again? Baby factory, stealing babies from the north, marry a woman with grown up children to claim as your own. Una go use una reproductive organs do juju for money con dey claim other people's children as your own. Wait make I put one Igbo girl Belle then you rush go pay brideprice claim my pikin since una prick no dey fit work again. Dem they use heavy brideprice lock una to cheating bitches and you can't do shit cos of your yeye tradition

RisenObinna:

It's not a must to marry an Igbo woman. If you're not comfortable with he people's custom, look else where...Na force?

Let the Yoruba man marry from his tribe or other tribe that will allow him to marry without paying bride price.

like a lot of naija guys I used to ire Igbo girls when I was much younger. But as a grown man who knows what life is, that my sole purpose is not to enslave myself to a woman and her family to exploit me and do yeye with ridiculous expectations when she can still cheat or divorce me. I no send Igbo girl again at all. But them good for sidechick sha, becos of their greed to please their family, them dey give knack up and down. Come and see what Igbo girls who are youth corpers in the north are doing. Them dey Bleep alhaji like tomorrow no dey cos of money, and you silly boys will be insulting aboki and pay heavy brideprice for babe wey don Bleep around. I know Igbo men who are married to women of other tribes, and they testify, finally realizing that they have been condition by some yeye tradition.

Sctests:


When you were shoving your miserable dick into the Igbo girl, you didn't know there were caveats and clauses.

All customary laws are equal befall the eyes of the law and are enforceable anywhere within Nigeria..

The Igbo customary law comes into play here. Those kids do belong to the promiscuous irresponsible Pastor who can't pay bride price. The Igbo ladies family own those kids she carried for nine months until another man pays her bride price and cater for the kids.

In Igboland there is no notion of bastard, every child has a father, biological or not. Maybe that's why there is a lesser prevalence of agberoes, omo miles and social misfits in Igboland compared to your region..

read my 1st comment baba. I'm not ethnocentric, but you igbos make it seem like you're the only tribe in Africa, or your culture is a standard bearer for everybody. That's why some of una dey carry yeye mentality take go aboard go enter issues. Go tell oyinbo judge say becos you no pay brideprice, no bi you get the pikin and so you no go pay child . Your are calling the man promiscuous, someone who has 4 children with the same woman and run their church together. But the woman that wants to leave her husband for his boy is what? I am sure they have been knacking since before them wan marry. Talking about social misfits, what do you call those guys at Onitsha bridge, ABA market and the host of drug peddlers caught home and abroad everyday? Baby factory, stealing children from the north, what is una obsession with pikin?

So when she was giving birth to 1,2,3,4 children, she didn't pack and leave for becos her brideprice wasnt paid. It's when she now starts her runs with her husband boy, she shey dem dey pay brideprice. Does she think that if she wasn't alive her new guy will care her grown up children like his own?
Everything he would do for the kids is becos her, take her out of the equation, he has no attachment to them. Their father knows them from birth, they have urinated on his body, kept him up at night, bought pampers, clothes and he has paid school fees from day 1. So all of that goes under the bridge just becos some guy paid some merge amount to her family. Most importantly sef, customary law is subservient to constitutional law. The biological father of a child has first right over that child except he forfeits it or is found to be unfit to excerise his responsibility. A gene is the basic unit of genetic inheritance. Elementary biology. All those people who are insulting the magistrate do not have sense. You wanna place emotions over reason? Irrational customs over logic? Do animals pay brideprice? Them no dey born?

Quality20:
oh my God! So u mean all those meek,gentle Hausa Fulani girls can do abortion like u said?

Guy, there's nothing that happens in the South that doesn't happen in the North. The only difference is that in the North everything is coded and low key. Even prostitutes cover their bodies head to toe but people know who is who. And yes, abortion is a normal thing here behind the scenes

aisha1314:


I see nothing wrong with it. For me, I plan on being a single mom because I think it's cool.

lol. So you think. Until you become one and then you realize that rai a child all by yourself is not an easy task. My ex is a babymama, she went from being the most beautiful girl I used to know, to a cheap girl I can use as sidechick if I so please. You see all that attention you get as a fine girl, forget it, you'll be used only to cure conji. Any man who wants to marry you will have to think twice about it (I.e friends and family are not able to dissuade him), and even if he does, it will be like they are doing you a favor. Different men will come and be bleeping you in front of your child, exposing the child to trauma. Please don't be selfish

Quality20:
Well here in d far north, baby mamas are nonexistent

Guy forget, that's cos they do abortions, ed and covered by their mothers. Or give birth and throw the baby away. I know it's a very serious taboo for a Muslim girl to have a child in her parents house, so they go to any length to terminate pregnancy. My doctor friend told me that even 8 months Belle, dem dey comot am.

I blame celebrity culture. It's celebrities that made having a baby mama look cool and normal. But commitment and marriage is made to look like a dangerous mistake that should be avoided if possible. I was shocked when a woman in my neighborhood was telling me that I should just impregnate a girl and forget about marriage. Up is now down, and down is up....

If I were the UK, US or Canadian gov I would stop giving visas to some Nigerians. The things we are willing to do to each other becos of japa no be small, we take people who are kind as mumu. Aboard is like heaven to us, we focus too much on material wealth and forget building strong interpersonal relationships. We no dey use eye take see opportunity. Dem invite you go bigman house, you go thief, not knowing wetin dem fit do for you in future wetin you theif.