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Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Instead of you to wait to gather more evidence you acted like a puppy.

Divorce her

alobright17:


Bros eyes Dey pain you or you’re just joking ? Say you did not see it instead of saying there’s nothing like that on the post . Now see the screenshot .

Na you eye they pain.
Check the attached picture on the post. Did you see any "We" there

alobright17:


Bros eyes Dey pain you or you’re just joking ? Say you did not see it instead of saying there’s nothing like that on the post . Now see the screenshot .

Don't take what I said.take what is in the picture.thanks

ravensckar:
✓ The Zonefree that you quoted is unmarried, na why him dey always yarn rubbish on marital issues.
If a woman is telling you that she wants a divorce, she's only whyning you. If she truly wants a divorce, she knows how to go about it.
My friend's wife packed out of the house in bits. She was moving her things bit by bit without the husband's knowledge. On the last day that she'd be leaving, she and bros even smash in the early hours. Only for bros to return from work and see that she had left. Everybody beg tire but she no return. Na since that day I start to dey fear women.

Na that kain woman I dey like listen to. No be all these other endurance wives wey dey always complain but no go ever do anything serious after realizing there is nothing left for them in the union.

Futuristica:


Don't take what I said.take what is in the picture.thanks

See it from the line I drew this guy

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Divorce this woman before she poison you, you're in this marriage alone oga

shortgun:
A man should always be steps ahead in matters like this with a good strategy.
Most cheating women are not very smart,catching them is very easy if you don't show any signs of suspicion.
You confronted her too early cos you allowed emotions get the better of you.
If she's truly cheating, what you've done will make her to become more secretive and be more careful.

I'm telling you, he confronted her too fast.

shortgun:
A man should always be steps ahead in matters like this with a good strategy.
Most cheating women are not very smart,catching them is very easy if you don't show any signs of suspicion.
You confronted her too early cos you allowed emotions get the better of you.
If she's truly cheating, what you've done will make her to become more secretive and be more careful.

May God help you bro. It will be one of the 7 wonders of the world if your woman truly changed and come back to you. So sorry bro

Please @op, hold unto this info seriously. You unintentionally caused her disinterest in everything with divorce threat and all sorts. Learn to understand her more. A woman losing her womb is the worst and most devastating experience any woman can go through. Please care for her more until she changes.

shortgun:

He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife

tollyboy5:

Instead of you to wait to gather more evidence you acted like a puppy.

Don't mind him.
Like she was going to tell him the truth.
A thief will continue to tell lies until you catch him red handed.

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Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us
Just a background.
his matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Bro sorry to tell you her love and mind is no longer with you,telling you herself to initiate divorce if you feel she cheated is the height of the red flags she has been flashing..

Maybe you over pampered her or made her feel she was your all in all that why she is sounding like she doesn't care if the marriage ends..You better start removing your mind from the marriage and get a side chick ASAP o. Did you marry legit and how old is your marriage,any kids?God will help you because this is not a good situation.

Zonefree:

Nawao.

God is your strength.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Grant her request swiftly!

Futuristica:


She is not the outgoing type..we spent time away from home but she always looks unhappy and I feel she is just getting by..my thoughts sha..because she keeps a frowning face by default..lol

Why won't she? She lost her womb due to carrying pregnancy for you, yet you threaten her with divorce whimsically!

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Na one chance u enter. How old is the union?

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

1. She or her office friend either had a physical or an emotional or both with a married man.

2. If it is not your wife , the office close friend is influencing her negatively . Cut off that friendship if true.

3. Let her know the next time she talks about divorce like that ever again you will take action and mean it like your life depends on it .

4. She is right though. You only live once . The moment you realize that you cannot change the mind of a full grown adult unless they want to , you will live life with little worries. A man or woman that will cheat will cheat . Be an award winning husband or a woman beater . Who go cheat go cheat .

shortgun:

Na you eye they pain.
Check the attached picture on the post. Did you see any "We" there

why can’t you it now that you see the thing ? Just Dey argue anyhow

Zonefree:

You want to know the undiluted truth?


She doesn't want to birth for you. She knows what she's doing.

Women always have plan B, unfortunately their husband or boyfriend are not always in that plan.

Like I said before, the Lord is your strength.

God sees my heart I won't waste time divorce this kind of person

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

You should have divorced her a long time ago!
She has already found someone....That's the reason why she confidently said you can divorce her!

My advice
1 is to continue to live in denial that your wife is not being serviced by another man.
2 is to clone her phone for confirmation of your suspicion
3. Start initiating divorce process upon confirmation.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Cheating i cant say...bt d way it looks she aint in luv wit u again for her to bring up divorce.Baba start divorce proceeding,no let woman giv u BP as life is short

ARISHEM:
Next time you will not open her phone again

It is like you would prefer turning blind eye to your wife's suspicious activity and never find out the truth by avoiding her phone

Futuristica:


She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc

Hmmmm

shortgun:

He was threatening her with divorce instead of looking for workable solutions to fix the marriage from onset. Women feel devastated, demoralized and frustrated in any environment where they are shown rejection....she will never give her best or even try!
A man in every home must know how to work on the psychology of his wife

Womb has gone without any kid between them. In this our environment, it is just a matter of time before they separate

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

Your wife is dusted already. You can't unfvck what has been fvcked...Don't sweat it

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

You are too reactive, you could have played cool to get more concrete evidence before confronting her, now she will play defensive and leave no clues

Next time when you have issue, dont put your foot first, test her to see, if she will go away.

alobright17:
why can’t you it now that you see the thing ? Just Dey argue anyhow

See eeh bro, you need to be objective in everything you do in life to always have a balanced view.
It's very easy to tell that the OP invented that "We" in his narrative which is missing in the picture he posted as evidence.
Intentional or otherwise he obviously did that to align with his biased assessment of the "evidence" of the wife's infidelity.

The worst time is to wake anyone from sleep

legacystore:


You are too reactive, you could have played cool to get more concrete evidence before confronting her, now she will play defensive and leave no clues

Futuristica:


She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce

Divorce that cheat with immediate effect otherwise, u will regret it. This happened to me and I almost lost my self-esteem. I had a bo issue because of it. I summed up courage and ended d nonsense. Let her go n marry d man.