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I met my wife in the Southern part of Nigeria where we both work in the same Organisation ,i fell in love because i liked her from that moment we met ,under 3 month i decided to get married to her,and we did under 3 month of getting to date.

5 years down,everything was good,i had a nice apartment,furnished with 247 power supply via Solar, a nice ride and got a transport business of 5 buses, so i would say i was confortable,at some point the transport business didnt work out,business was slow so i had to sale them off.

5 months after she got a oil company job (training) in a near by city close to me,the contract was for one year so i gave her permition to go which became most regreted decision ever,she moved while i remain in my city ,her pay was 3 times what i get in my job adding to the fact she still get her monthly salary from her old place since she is just on payroll.

This Woman started started picking fights at every calls we make,conversations ,our plans was for her to come home every weekend because its just 45 mins drive,she doesnt and changed her mind all f a sudden,disrespect started pouring in, i called the family to complain but i was promised there was gonna be a meeting on that,months and nothing seems to happen.

Continue..... am interested to hear the full story after then what happened?

PART 2..............................................

I got to find out she comes to my city once a week to our work place and back ,we both live 5 houses away from our work place ,the street only has one way in and one way out,so u get to our home before going to our work place and back,my colleagues would tell me they saw my wife but out of shock i will ask them if they are sure but jokenly say oh yes,she was here.

I confronted her on phone,she told me i should get a girl over at my city to keep me company,i was in shock, i complained that to her mum ,the mum promised to speak to her but nothing changed so i started getting use to it.

PART 3........................................................................

My Pastor who was transfered to that same city she work in called me all of a sudden one day to ask me where my wife was ,i told him,he was shocked ,he said he saw her with a male in a car driving off around and needed to be sure ,he was hiding alot of information as he sounded on phone i just knew he didnt wanna give me alot.

Lets go back to 3 years when everything was good and fine,he use to date an Engineer which he is as well,the guy traveled abroad and kept sending her messages that he still loves her and would want to bring her over if she would leave her husband,she told me about it and we all laughed and joked.

I started thinking could this be a what i am thinking? or she must have met all this Oil company big boys that earn 5 to 7 million naira monthly while i earn 120k monthly ,at some point every conversation with this woman became a querrel ,a fight,she became angry at me for just saying good morning on phone, she started turning me to the woman while she became the Husband.

PART 4........................................................

Fast forward to when she was almost done with her job in that City, i called her on phone that we would be moving to a new apartment in the heart of the city so she will be closer to her siblings sisters who are still single and knowing she comes weekend at their place without coming to our own home as planned ,this woman told me NO,I SHOULD CALL IT MY HOUSE ,I AM MOVING TO MY HOUSE ,she shouldnt be included in the plans ,Omo i shock.

So she moved to her single elder sisters house , Her family never intervain even when i tried to complain,ON HER BIRTHDAY I WISHED HER ,SENT BOXES OF CHOCOLATES ETC, there was no thank you,she called me and told me i should never ever in my life wishher a happy birthday ever, i had to screen much that messges to send to our pastor since he got involved in thr process as well.

I was stopped access to my son ,i had to beg to see the little boy,i still pay monthly upkeep and also school fee,so eventually i made it clear that if this continues i will stop the fee,since we both have equal rights as parents,i was just hoping that would make her behave,it didnt work

Cock and bull

PART 5....................................................................

I got a call from the police station that im wanted ,that my wife came to report that i abadoned her and my child for 2 years ,i was shocked,since ist a family issue i didnt show up for days telling them im away ,i had to her family to let them know the situation ,they told me they will talk to her,i kept getting calls from different Police officers ,on the 5th day i got a call from the state Welfare office .

I went to the welfare office and i was told there were allegations against me for abandoning my family for two years and refused to pay the child and school fees,Certainly that wasnt true because it was only for 3 months plus.

Both Families where present and we thought her family was there to resolve the issue or know where my wrongs were,they said they were not there for any explanations but there to Refund the bride price and are ready to take any step their daughter is willing to take.

Tears roll down my eyes ,i tried to explain to them reasons i have been ing them to complain about the situations including her mum who was present there,they all turned their faces ,denied it all.

Money envelope was there on the table,they walked out one by one,i took the money and we walked out,looking back and seeing my wife handing money in her hands to the judge of the welfare officer just like the way Police officers take bribe from a bus driver and conductors in nigeria, i was trying to draw the attention of my Elder bro but he turned to me and said,i saw it,leave it let it go,nothing you can do at this point,there decisions were made a long time ago.

I fell into depresson,I lost the one i fell in love with,i lost my Family for reasons i was never told the wrong i did.

lordm:
Cock and bull

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lordm:
Cock and bull

trust me ,i created this new page to write about my experience and also to hide my identity and hers,i have no use to make up stories like this ,i have nothing to gain if my story was untrue.i will feel stupid,i don mature when i go come here come make up stories.
Just to share My story on how manipulative most nigerian women are.
Thanks

WCDSB:
trust me ,i created this new page to write about my experience and also to hide my identity and hers,i have no use to make up stories like this ,i have nothing to gain if my story was untrue.i will feel stupid,i don mature when i go come here come make up stories.
Just to share My story on how manipulative most nigerian women are.
Thanks

Please ignore distractions and continue the story.

PART 6..........................................................................

The Divorce Docs were signed ,both family shared witness ,after a week this woman started calling and showing some nice and romantic attitude on phone telling me to come spend time with my son ,it was strange ,my friends told me thgere was something wrong and i should get ready,get my phone a recorder as proof on whats coming.

She called that '' EHN EHN MY BROTHER WANTS TO SPONSOR ME ABROAD TO NORTH AMERICA ,HE GAVE ME $30K FOR SCHOOL,SO I NEED TO APPLY AND I WANT YOU TO BE MY DEPENDANT ,AS MY HUSBAND,SO WHEN I APPLY ,THEY WILL GIVE ME VISA BASE ON THE FACT THAT MY HUSBAND AND SON IS IN NIGERIA, HOME TIES''

I asked why wont she go with our son ,she got irritated by that saying she will leave our son with her mum not even me,i laughed and told her NO ,count me out of that,we are seperated.i cut the call, thats when the whole idea of her seperation started hitting me,i started to recall.

The same Brother who she claimed gave her $30k in Dollars works a normal 9 to 5 job for the goverment that Earns about N150 to N200k in Naira,in the same Nigeria we are,How posible was that....things strated unfolding

PART 7...............................................................

With all Humbleness ,I am from a family that live more than an average life,if you know what i mean,but as an Introvert i never took my complain financially to anyone knowing with just a phone call i could change things for years ,i felt as a man i could hustle on my own and meet up standards,even with my marital issues my family didnt know until the very end i needed help and advise,i was lossing my life gradually due to depression.

My life changed after 5 months of even thinking suicidal and depression, i got my visa on a visiting to the same country she wanted to go too,our dream country ,the same dream countr that her EX boy friend is.

We got to find out the Ex was the one who asked her come abroad to live with him that he works in an oil company with a house,a car and wants to marry her only if she leaves her husband and her child behind,thats why she called me on phone with lies of her brother giving her $30k when it was her ex who was trying to get her to the country but since there was no way ,they tried to use me as aa strategy to stand as a dependant .

PART 9....................................................................

5 months after ,i relocated to America ,the first day i touched down,she saw my status on Whatapps ,she started calling me ''BABY '' DARLING WOW CONGRATULATIONS,WHEN ARE YOU COMING TO BRING ME OVER,I MISS YOU,HOW LONG ARE YOU THERE FOR'' i got over 30 calls from her in a day,she started posting my pictures on her status ,we dey look dey laugh.

Her family were also on standby on facebook checking every post i make,i moved from visiting to study route,they saw pictures ,and where shocked i was studying one of the rarest career , blacks hardly go through that part,got a job part time that pays me a monthly $3500 for a starteven as a stuydent that could only work 24 hours per week.

I could afford any car i want in just 6 months,the guild was coming from her side and that of her family.

She started sending people to beg including pastors ,begging that her and her family are ready to take back the bride price and she is very sorry,blaming it on evil people and bad advise from her sisters.

TO BE CONTINUED .............................................................................................

WCDSB:
PART 9....................................................................

5 months after ,i to America ,the first day i touched down,she saw my status on Whatapps ,she started calling me ''BABY '' DARLING WOW CONGRATULATIONS,WHEN ARE YOU COMING TO BRING ME OVER,I MISS YOU,HOW LONG ARE YOU THERE FOR'' i got over 30 calls from her in a day,she started posting my pictures on her status ,we dey look dey laugh.


She started sending people to beg including pastors ,begging that her and her family are ready to take back the bride price and she is very sorry,blaming it on evil people and bad advise from her sisters.

TO BE CONTINUED .............................................................................................

The epitome of shameless.

Sir, is this a real life story?

tobore4u:
Sir, is this a real life story?

Bro this is my personal story,and its still fresh,trust me,thats what i have gone through for 2 years now,i have moved on and i am healed

PART 10.........................................................................

A week ago my sons birthday party is coming and she asked if we are celebrating it,since i wasnt there on his last birthday which she cut all communication with me for reasons i dont know,i said yes we are celebrating it,write me a list of what to get,my budget in my mind was atleast 250k to 400 k since its just a childs birthday of 6 years.

Low and behold, her list got to 9Miilion Naira ,i was shocked ,i asked myself '' EVEN TINUBU PRESIDENTIAL APC PARTY ON WINNING THE ELECTION WAS HOW MUCH? HOW MUCH DID WIKE OF FCT CELEBRATE WHEN HE WAS MADE MINISTER OF FCT'' I didnt respond to her messges,all i did was connect with cake makers in the state and even planners so i can just get the stuffs i think the child needs for the birthday and send .

So i asked to bring the Child over to America,she refused stating that if i cant bring her over then i should forget it,i tried to explain to her the child needs a good environment,good school and education,better health system,i even promise her that the child will be coming to Nigeria for holiday every year to her,she still refused saying i can bring them both,but only the child? NO.

I feel this is an act of selfishness,the child cant be using keke everywhere and living in such a remote small town ( i kept the state and town private) while his dad drives his dream car over here and live in a confortable place,im working this hard to give my kids the best life,she asked me to buy her a car of recent that the child of 6 years need one to move around,i just laughed because in as much as i want my child to have the best life,i cant fall prey to the fact she or her family wants to use me as an oppotunity to get financial freedom.NO,i no mumu.

So i Took the matter to court ,as it is now i need to finalize the divorce process in the federal high court and seek custody of the child,because that child needs to have more than he is getting now.

WCDSB:
Bro this is my personal story,and its still fresh,trust me,thats what i have gone through for 2 years now,i have moved on and i am healed

wow.....Thank God for your life.

Thank GOD for your life my brother don't ever make that mistake of bringing her to America and secondly some humans are wicked limit your calls with her ,it should be based on anything that has to do with tour son and pls make sure you always do videocall with your son.Time is truth and truth is GOD,time will reveal alot just be patient and try to make yourself happy it's the most important thing,if also try and go into a new relationship it must not be a nigerian woman but a foreigner and focus on your life purpose this is very important.I am still waiting to hear more of the happenings thank you.

joceey:
Thank GOD for your life my brother don't ever make that mistake of bringing her to America and secondly some humans are wicked limit your calls with her ,it should be based on anything that has to do with tour son and pls make sure you always do videocall with your son.Time is truth and truth is GOD,time will reveal alot just be patient and try to make yourself happy it's the most important thing,if also try and go into a new relationship it must not be a nigerian woman but a foreigner and focus on your life purpose this is very important.I am still waiting to hear more of the happenings thank you.

Thanks ,i am in a new relationships now, i have moved on,i make sure every whatapp conversation is saved and stored because women can be manipulative and the child may grow up hearing what wasnt true,so i can have proof.

I got to realize that she wants the child with her as a way of getting money from me at the smallest oppotunity ,she calls and tell the child what to tell me,'' Daddy i need 50k for data,they need to movies,since it was coming from the child i love so much,that is my weak point,i sent 20k sha instantly, daddy i need a laptop and its 250k ,etc.

PART 11...............................................................................................

Some days back , she called that the child fell down while running and they are in the hospital ,she sent me the pictures of a scar on his nose,sincerely speaking its just a minor wound from kids that are bounds to happen,she told me the Doctor said he may have internal bleeding so the need to run a scan.

I asked how much ,she told its 255K, i was shocked nut i transfer the money instantly not thst i didnt know its way less than that for just a scan,this woman has NHIS and also for thr Child,for my mind i say how much come be brain surgery scan? .

For me the money is little but i cant fall prey to her money hungry scam,i just sent the money so tomorrow she doesnt stwist the story that i questioned money that is meant to be important as health is involved.

WCDSB:
Thanks ,i am in a new relationships now, i have moved on,i make sure every whatapp conversation is saved and stored because women can be manipulative and the child may grow up hearing what wasnt true,so i can have proof.

I got to realize that she wants the child with her as a way of getting money from me at the smallest oppotunity ,she calls and tell the child what to tell me,'' Daddy i need 50k for data, daddy i need a laptop and its 250k ,etc.

50k for that ke Say weytin happen just relax your son will be with you shortly.Takenote pls just focus on your son and don't allow anybody to try to tell you to reconcile with her hmmmm avoid self pity unless you want suffer be that. GOD will protect you and your son grant you longer life and goodhealth in Jesus Christ name 🙏

WCDSB:
PART 11...............................................................................................

Some days back , she called that the child fell down while running and they are in the hospital ,she sent me the pictures of a scar on his nose,sincerely speaking its just a minor wound from kids that are bounds to happen,she told me the Doctor said he may have internal bleeding so the need to run a scan.

I asked how much ,she told its 255K, i was shocked nut i transfer the money instantly not thst i didnt know its way less than that for just a scan,this woman has NHIS and also for thr Child,for my mind i say how much come be brain surgery scan? .

For me the money is little but i cant fall prey to her money hungry scam,i just sent the money so tomorrow she doesnt stwist the story that i questioned money that is meant to be important as health is involved.

Hmmm it's well

joceey:


50k for that ke Say weytin happen just relax your son will be with you shortly.Takenote pls just focus on your son and don't allow anybody to try to tell you to reconcile with her hmmmm avoid self pity unless you want suffer be that. GOD will protect you and your son grant you longer life and goodhealth in Jesus Christ name 🙏

i am already in a serious relationship with someone here,so she can never come back,i have found peace.

Sadly in the country i live,the goverment would pay my son or any child i have $750 month for child benefit, until they get to 18 years,sadly the child is in one small city in naija with bad road,no light,no security ,no good medical care,no good school, yet due to her selfishness want to stop thye child from having what every kids and adult dream of,been raised in such an amazing environment.

WCDSB:
i am already in a serious relationship with someone here,so she can never come back,i have found peace.

Sadly in the country i live,the goverment would pay my son or any child i have $750 month for child benefit, until they get to 18 years,sadly the child is in one small city in naija with bad road,no light,no security ,no good medical care,no good school, yet due to her selfishness want to stop thye child from having what every kids and adult dream of,been raised in such an amazing environment.

She is a selfish and self centered woman.