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My Father Inherited Multiple Rental Properties, Lived Comfortably, and Left Nothing for His Kids. Now I'm Struggling with Feelings of Heartbreak and Betrayal. Here's Why I'm So Hurt...

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I never thought I’d be writing something like this. Honestly, I never even thought I’d be here—feeling this broken, feeling like an afterthought in the story of my own life. But I am. And I need to share this, to put it out there and see if maybe, just maybe, there’s someone who can understand.

It’s hard to explain how it feels when your own father—your flesh and blood—could have given you so much and instead chose to leave you in the dust. My father wasn’t a billionaire or anything close, but he had a kind of silent power that few ever realized. He inherited six rental properties decades ago, back when he was barely out of his twenties. And for years, he lived a life many could only dream of.

He worked a regular job, nothing flashy—just a standard 9-to-5. But behind that job, there was the steady hum of ive income flowing from those properties. He never had to struggle like everyone else. While his coworkers were scraping by after their company went under, some of them even winding up in dead-end jobs or worse, my father was cruising along. I him telling us stories about his “work trips,” though they always seemed like vacations to me. Every year, he’d go off to Europe for a couple of weeks, living it up in places most of us only saw in movies.

He never once thought to invest in those properties. It’s a bitter pill to swallow when I think about it—those properties could have been thriving, expanding, maintained to be worth even more than they were. But no. He let them fall into disrepair, run down and nearly worthless. And the worst part? He never once tried to include us in his success. My brother and I were just... background noise in his life.

I asking him not too long ago why he didn’t think —why he didn’t care about our struggles, especially when we were fighting tooth and nail just to stay afloat. His response stung more than anything else: "Why should I have to suffer for you?"

I stood there, frozen, holding back tears. Suffer for us? We weren’t asking for handouts. We just wanted... to matter. But we didn’t. And it hurt more than I could ever put into words.

That was the moment everything clicked for me—the realization that my father, who had so much, had given us nothing. He had so much to share, so much he could’ve done to make our lives easier, but instead, he chose to live comfortably, letting us drown in our own worries. And now, I feel like I’m stuck with this overwhelming sense of betrayal, like I’ll never be able to escape the weight of it.

This pain I’m carrying? It’s heavy. Too heavy. I think about ending it sometimes... not because I want to die, but because I feel like I’ve been forgotten, lost in a world that doesn’t care about me. And the person who should have been there for me the most—my father—didn’t even bat an eye. I don’t know how to move forward with this, or if I ever will.

But maybe writing this out is a start. Maybe I’ll find some peace by sharing it.

I just need to know if anyone else has felt this way, too. Am I the only one?
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OP, does that same father of yours also expect that you, his offspring, will take care of him in his old age ?

Some people no suppose be parents at all. You speak this in a crowd of Nigerians and a majority of them will come at you spewing the most ridiculous of ideas why everyone should be expected to reproduce. A very ill set of beings they are.

Most Nigerian men are highly irresponsible.

My maternal cousins father inherited not less 15 landed properties and houses but he sold everything and left nothing for his children till date.

Now,they are suffering for not training them.

ibechris:
Most Nigerian men are highly irresponsible.

My maternal cousins father inherited not less 15 landed properties and houses but he sold everything and left nothing for his children till date.

Now,they are suffering for not training them.

You are wrong but most next of kin

idahme:



You are wrong but most next of kin

Most next of kin are male especially in Nigeria.

They(grandpa/ma) left it for him and not you.

ibechris:



Most next of kin are male especially in Nigeria.

Most next of kin isn't the same as most males in Nigeria, most next kin is a subset of most males in Nigeria with wealth and i can tell you that most males in Nigeria who made their wealth without inheritance are very articulate and responsible. Your assertion is very wrong.