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Goodnewsforlife:
thank goodness the foolish man is learning in a very hard way

Even my wife wey we dey gather read dey call u mumu

Why she dey call me mumu? Because of the fact that I was pressured into marriage or she think I'm wrong in all of this? Please ask her why.

Sucre6:
You see, when we ingest red pill with reckless abandon, many here call us name, being a redpiller means alot, a red piller would know that all you have done was a rooky mistakes. And have been armed how to handle these situation

The worst mistake ever is marrying out of pity,
and marrying without loving the person, plus knowing she has cheated would permanently live a damaging image in your head never to trust her again which will lead to non sexual attraction, sorry to say bro, it will get to a point when you can't even sustain an erection with her that's because sex is also psychological, if you dont find her attractive chances that u both will have good sex is almost not there, which is one of the bedrock of marriage

The truth is, no woman is perfect even the chubby ones u keep using as a reference, plus you need to grow mentally, there are some things you ignore and walk away from, you can't win an argument with a woman, starting it in the first place is the wrongest move ever, women thrive on emotion and they capitalize on you making mistake while arguing to make a silly point to further fuel their point,

It's a cycle that never ends, with your mentality and way you think, even if you divorce her and marry your choice chubby lady, chances that the marriage won't work is very high, you need a bunch load of red pill session bro.

You're a seer, my erection while she's naked in from of my has already started deminishing, because she isn't sexually attracted to me.

I do no that no woman is perfect, but at least I want to be with someone that I love and someone I'm attracted to even if she isn't perfect or doesn't have a very good character.

Sorry for that bro, but please and please go do DNA test for that your son. No vex bro

ayomilore:
This phase will soon . By the time she has 2,3 kids for you she will be chubby like you desire and by then all the youthful exuberance associated with early stage of marriage would have fizzled out. Just be patient like someone earlier suggested.

Shalom.

She won't be chubby, her first pregnancy is enough to seal it if it's possible, her elder sister got pregnant and gave birth to her first child and she got really chubby, her other elder sister too same thing. But in her case, she got more thinner than she was before. I haven't seen anything like this ever before.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even .




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she ed her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Two useless adults

Bro, my marriage is more than 10 years and I would advise you to be patient. Take note of my points.

1. Women can be daring, but you have to act like a man.

2. I will let you know that 1st year in marriage is mostly hell, from my observation.

3. Women are wired to react to our actions as husband.

4. You have a son to save from a broken home trauma.

5. Marriage is always a work in progress.

6. To me, that Women loves you. She only need your attention. Please swallow your ego and discuss about pains both of you are going through.

7. Overall, no marriage is good up to 70% of what you are seeing around. We all manage each other.

Think about this "would you resign from your well paying job because of your boss" ?

Pray for wisdom my brother and don't ever trust what you see on social media.

Life is good if you want it to be.

God will help you during these trying times.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even .




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she ed her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Separation is better than murder

BlindAngel:


She won't be chubby, her first pregnancy is enough to seal it if it's possible, her elder sister got pregnant and gave birth to her first child and she got really chubby, her other elder sister too same thing. But in her case, she got more thinner than she was before. I haven't seen anything like this ever before.

I really pity you. What if the chubby lady you've been dreaming of turns out to be a demoness? Nobody is perfect, that is a sure fact that you must know.

According to you, you don’t love her, sexual attraction is zero, she’s fair and slim unlike what you want, her pussy is wide yet you dated her for that long, married her and knacked her till she got pregnant, even got pregnant for the second time? And now you’re complaining? Da! I no dey understand some of una sef

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even .




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she ed her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Is she the one footing the bills

You just wasted her time with you, something that you would have avoided but you just ignored it, well sha its nt too late to come back to her, just tell her am sorry, fall in love with her again like before.

What a mess.

GVTAsiwaju:


Is she the one footing the bills

Footing which bills??

Ebigwei007:
You just wasted her time with you, something that you would have avoided but you just ignored it, well sha its nt too late to come back to her, just tell her am sorry, fall in love with her again like before.

Wasted whose time
Do u know how many countless numbers of times they I wanted to leave and she always threatened me with suicide? Would it have gotten to this extend if she had allowed me to leave in peace back then?

BlindAngel:


Seems you didn't read what I wrote, she clearly knew that I don't love her but yet used her tears and manipulation attempt to force me to marry her, when I'm not in anyway ready. Just because she got pregnant, so how's it my fault?

Bros, you don't need to love a lady before being happily married to her. Trust me, if you ask our fathers and grandfathers how they did it, they'd tell you it's by UNDERSTANDING what marriage entails, being PATIENT even in the face of provocation & TOLERATING eachother's excesses.

In the African context, that word "Love" is so overrated in marriage. A woman just wants to be pampered or cared for (not understood) and a man wants to be respected (not frustrated). Knowing this is the first sign of understanding what marriage entails.

Las las, una two go dey alright.

Don't leave your marriage NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Stability is key. In the face of crisis, one of your greatest weapon is silence.

Tolerate. Forgive. ignore. Play ur role as a husband and father.

Be firm, assertive and empathic.

Xscape1993:
You don't love her at all? What and what do you want from her? She persuaded you and you married her? Well, you have the final say sir.

Thank God they finally separated,they would be killed each other.


They both married for different reasons.

kwaso2:
Don't leave your marriage NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Stability is key. In the face of crisis, one of your greatest weapon is silence.

Tolerate. Forgive. ignore. Play ur role as a husband and father.

Be firm, assertive and empathic.

They never loved themselves in the first place,it's good they went their separate ways,I saw a clip of how a man killed his wife that bore him 2kids,then threw himself inside a konga(well)


People marries for different reasons,the moment a woman opens her mouth to demean the size of her husband's peepee in his presence all atom of love have completely flew outta the window.

Both this op and his wife are toxic,à man that woefully failed performing his duties and the wife bombing fb to please her husband.


Marriage wey nor suppose take place in the first place.

BlindAngel:


No, i haven't done that, I also haven't prayed about it before.

Prayers work my dear. Pray is a spiritual communication and interaction between God and man. Nothing works out for a man well without pray no matter how little is it.

BlindAngel:


No, i haven't done that, I also haven't prayed about it before.

I built my marriage on pray sir. Sir, find good reasons to love her.

You be bad person bro

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even .




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she ed her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

A movie producer can't write a comedy script like this.


I just dey laugh really hard here🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Better guide yourself well make she no stab you for sleep. If you like no take this advice seriously.

kwaso2:
Don't leave your marriage NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Stability is key. In the face of crisis, one of your greatest weapon is silence.

Tolerate. Forgive. ignore. Play ur role as a husband and father.

Be firm, assertive and empathic.

Make una dey read before commenting na haba. Person say e no love him wife, is it by force to love someone you don't want to be with? I pity you.

"I'm a broke guys she's just managing." That is the root of your problem. Leave now and make money, because the insults will never stop. You won't get any sweetness from a woman, if you are poor and not trying. Never let anyone woman pay the majority of the bills, because she will resent you and eventually hate you.

BlindAngel:


I made a decision this morning not to eat her food anymore until I fully get a refund of my bride price. Also I won't be sleeping at home often from now henceforth.

You will regret in the long run.

The kinds of comments I've seen on this thread explains why we have many stupid young guys in the society today. Imagine a man who has been married for 20years happy being a weakling , another another one for 10 years was busy saying a whole lot of bullshit.
Some idiots even said your wife was like that because she loved you. People just use their stupidity without censoring. How can a lady who love you cheat on you, flout your orders, insult and disrespect you and even allow her friends disrespect you. Are some people naturally stupid?

A woman who wanted to kill herself didn't do that because she was madly in love with you. She wanted to do that so that you can end up in jail because people would think you killed her. She wanted to put you in a case where you won't be able to exonerate yourself.

Some men are really a shame and are very very stupid. 20years in marriage and yet very stupid. No wonder my father would always say "Be mindful of the kind of elderly advice that you seek, age doesn't come with wisdom. Some people grow with foolishness and the more some people age, the more foolish they become".

Well, I don't have anything to say to you. Whatever you do in life, always understand that safety matters first.

BlindAngel:


Seems you didn't read what I wrote, she clearly knew that I don't love her but yet used her tears and manipulation attempt to force me to marry her, when I'm not in anyway ready. Just because she got pregnant, so how's it my fault?

You're talking rubbish boy! You dated her and got her pregnant and you're here saying she manipulated you? Did she manipulate you to date her and get her pregnant? Just listen to yourself!

Mind you, I don't even care what you decide to do with your marriage. Na your cup of coffee.

Her 'whoring stage' was cut short by you with that pregnancy and its fighting back..you can choose to be patient or let her loose..my concern is her mental issues..

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,

Please read to the end, It'd be quite an episode.

My marriage of 6 months has almost finally come to an end.

On my previous thread I have posted a lot about trouble we've been having during and after the marriage.

- How she manipulated me with her tears into marrying her despite the fact that I wasn't in anyway ready.

- How she manipulated me with her tears, and refused my pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony, therfore giving way for her pastor to conduct our baby's naming ceremony. And called me all sorts of names while crying when I refused and insisted that my pastor will be the one to do it.

Plus other's that I cannot even .




Now back to the topic, I will be extremely sincere to you all, I won't add anything and will not remove any. Everything started two day's ago, I was lying on the bed and she came to me crying and begging for me to love her that she's tired of begging for my love all the time, that I should give her just 1% of the love that I've for our son. Just 1% is all that she asked for, I didn't answer her, but later told her that I've tried in the past and still trying but the love isn't there naturally that maybe it's because she forced me into marriage when I'm not in anyway ready that in my wildest dream I never believed that I'd be a married man this year. Then she started crying heavily, went to look for rope and started strangling her neck that she will kill herself that there's no life for her to live, I rescued her. Then, I went to bath and before I came back she has locked the room door, I was hearing endless cough outside the door and pleaded with her to open the door but no response. Thank God the door key is somewhat faulty, I managed to open the door and saw that her eyes are already extremely red and spit drooping out of her mouth, the rope was so very extremely tight to her neck. "I'm still wondering until date how she managed to hold on tight and not let go despite the great pain she was in" next she went tho get knife that she'd stab herself. I was late for work and with the anger inside of me, I walked out of the house, she called me on video call immediately and showed me that this is the end that I should take care of out baby, I immediately ended the call, put my two phones on flight mode until I few hours later.

Immediately I on my phone my mom called me, she has reported a lot to my mom, my mom talked to me and when the heat was too much I walked out of her.

After that day, which is a day before yesterday, she totally changed, she no longer respect me, she talks to me anyhow, she insult me and talk back at me. These are things she does when I newly met her until she totally changed, now she has turned to something else, she bought a school form without even informing me. Two weeks ago she brought one of her friend to stay with us without informing me, when I confronted her she said she forgot.

Today she told me that I'm treating her bad and expect her not to revolt and continue keeping quiet, that this is the end road for me. I guessing that she got this advice from a friend, because she told her friend that she met at antinental everything that has been going on and she gave her some advice.


Today a huge quarrel broke out today which I'm clearly the cause, we were watching a Nigerian movie and I saw a chubby girl and complimented her that she's sweet that this is the kind of body I like that I'm going to search for her on Instagram just to see more of her. I said all this because I've been singing in her ears that I love dark skinned or chocolate women that are extremely chubby or fat. She also don't always fail to tell me that she's on weight reduction therapy "I'm always pained whenever I hear this words from her because she's not in anyway fat, she's fair too and rubbing cream to make her fair more, all these is paining me, she knew what I want but always doing the opposite. I can't resist a chubby girl, but coming home to see her how slim she's always makes me so heartbroken and weak.

The quarrel led to insult, we started insulting each other. She told me to shut up, that I'm an idiot bastard, a fool at 30, mumu, Goat etc.

And I insulted her as well, I'm pained by her insult because as she's supposed to give me some respect.


During the heat of the quarrel while we were still dating, I reminded her how she cheated on me by going to sleep with a stranger In a hotel until dawn, and denied that nothing happened, that the man didn't touch her.

I got to know all this when I she was sleeping and I used her finger print to open her phone and saw her chat between her and her room mate In school, she was still a student then.

"her friend asked her not to go, but she refused and went, on the chat she made mentioned that she didn't shaved that she'd be ashamed if the guy want to have sex with her.

When I saw her chat she blamed me, that I didn't gave her attention on that particular day. This is a woman whom I'm always chatting with all the time, except that particular day that I was extremely busy and told her that I'd be busy but when I'm less busy we'll chat. She said I told her that I was busy but I was online on whatsapp that she sent me messages but I never opened them, that her emotions got the best part of her.

I also reminded her of how she chatted a guy that was always disturbing her. She told the guy that she's ready to date him that he should go and rent house so that she would be coming to sleep there. What made her to write the guy? We had a quarrel, her friend that our last born was far older than, insulted me and instead of her to scold her friend she ed her friend and starter insulting me that I was the one at fault. Note : we were still dating back then when all this happened, today's argument made me to remind her.

I also reminded her of her chat with her friend when she told her friend that I'm a broke guy she's just managing.

But she said she was naive then that things have changed now which I can't deny. I then told her that I will call a family meeting and state all these that sha did during the past, I won't have done it but all her 4 sisters excluding her mom and one of her sister, think I met her a virgin, the remaining 4 of her sisters think I met her a virgin, so I want them to know that I didn't met her a virgin that she has already dis virgined when I met her.


Now back to the deal breaker, she said everything on my body is small including my penis, that whenever she's holding my penis when not erect, God forbid that it looks like a baby's penis. That God forbid our son having such a small penis.

Then I told her that her vagina is very wild that I don't feel anything when having sex with her, that all the prostitutes and my ex that I've slept with are far tighter and sweeter than her that she's has the worst and bitter vagina I've ever tasted in all my life and day to day existence.

Then she kept on hitting about my small penis that my penis is small and that's why I haven't felt anything. Then I told her how many girl's that have cummed during sex, even prostitutes. "Note, I'm not lying, this is 100% true" Then she said I'm lying, that my penis only long but it's small bla bla bla.

Few minutes later, I dressed up and went to church, while going she again called me a Goat, a fool and a Dog.


The decision I intend taking, I intend doing out child's dedication next week Sunday, so in order for anything not to connect us ever again after I've gotten back my bride price.

I have blocked her both numbers on whatsapp and Facebook, and on calls although she doesn't know yet. "note : this is the very first time that I'm blocking her, ever since when we started dating, no matter the quarrel and provocation, I haven't ever done this ever before.

Nothing and absolutely nothing will make this marriage work ever again, I intend calling a family meeting immediately after the dedication to state my mind that the marriage has ended and she should leave.

To me, this marriage ended a long time ago right from the very first day she manipulated me with her suicide attempt and endless tears and calling me wicked, heartless. In which I couldn't bear and I agreed to marry her despite the fact that I wasn't ready, the love wasn't there and above all I wasn't sexually attracted to her. I wasted 4 million plus in getting married to her February this year, and I have accepted my fate. I will do the dedication and call the family meeting to make my stance known.

Thank you all for reading, although I've already made a decision but I'd appreciate your contributions and what you think about all that happened.

Firstly, congratulations as you are about getting free from your shackles

Secondly, as you will be announcing the end of the marriage, where will she be, will you push her out with the child or you think your inlaw will listen to you in that same house all of you are living then stand up and go with out begging you to forgive her

My contributions are, plan yourself well, get yourself another apartment.

Arrange a visit to her family, carry her along with the child personal belongings and drop her off to her parents house and tell them officially that you have returned their daughter to them.

I know a youth Pastor in kirikiri who was charged for the murder of his own wife. A charge he denied. Only God knows the truth