NewStats: 3,264,655 , 8,184,358 topics. Date: Wednesday, 11 June 2025 at 09:37 PM 6t3r6r

that boy is crazy

lolu2019:
I am not forcing anyone.that's my one cent.i don't just type shit.i am talking from experience.what if,the girl is rich and the guy is poor.Men always acting too proud when they have small change.just let it go and marry her.

You're completely incoherent.

gameova:
It depends on what the past is

What sort of question is this. THE GIRL WAS A STRIPPER AND HIS FRIENDS HAS TAKEN TURNS WITH HER OGA READ NAAAAA

Elzazzi:


So because I no get work i go post this kind thing here ? I would have post the Wedding IV but the guy hasn’t confronted the lady yet and he’s still pondering on what action he will take next. It’s funny as you said it’s fake as if such things don’t happen. Well it doesn’t matter if you believe or not. I only posted so others can learn, especially ladies

This was how APC was lying up and down until they were voted in. Make una stop this nonsense this year

Itiskdg121:
I'm not in of the said lady, but what type of man is your friend's cousin to start with?

Women are always the ones that suffer in situations like this.

That his classmate or friend that came to reveal the ladies past, isn't he guilty of the same offence for doing 3some with her yet got the audacity to ask someone not to marry her?! What if it's the other way round and he's the one being exposed for doing 3somes, orgies and all sorts of immoralities and his fiancee is asked not to marry him based on his past?! How will he feel?!

While I'm not saying the lady should be absolved completely, I feel if the guy wanting to marry is a good guy and never engaged in such magnitude of immorality as his to be bride is being accused of he should carry out a very good investigation to the allegations then confront the lady with it. A genuinely repented person will always start any serious relationship by coming clean through revealing their past first, if their new partner is meant for them they will see the genuineness of their hearts and give them a chance.

I strongly believe that guy that made that expose actually deserves to marry a lady like this one if she's truly guilty, cos how will you do nonsense with some girls and feel you deserve reserved, innocent and godly wives?!

He's quick to judge her and forgot he was part of her immoral past.

Talk about removing the your eye before trying to point out the speck in another's

All the people advising the OP may have wives or girlfriends with darker secrets. My only problem with this situation is her inability to come clean. The guys that had a 3.some with her have no moral justification to judge her.

My own is that if he later marry her, I will like to have a 3some with her. She should come around with her friend. Since the guy no wan get sense. Olosho will always be olosho

iLegendd:
The rule is:

A woman's past is the most important thing to a man.

A man's future is the most important thing to a woman.

^^^
Don't think I've ever seen this before. Succint and thought provoking too.

Any woman that was once a stripper and a call girl to the level of party should kiss marriage bye bye.
Except the man himself wouldn't mind.

OriginalCEO:


these days, they all have a past.

met one yesterday and she is already listing her exes and what they did to her nawa o.

The thing is they don't heed good counsel and they often want to eat their cakes and have it who does that.

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Kindly tell your ' friend cousin ' to see this movie "Dinner" on Netflix.
After this, he should make his decisions.

ArcSEMPECJ:
The lady should have disclosed such to him since she knew her past has a dent.....

Ofcourse she might have repented, even can give birth to 10 children, train them in a godly way and make them responsible but for the guy to first know her past before her presenting it, is a big issue ...

It is left for the guy to check of she can even give birth, then I think he likes her character, so he can go on if the result appears positive for her to conceive....

Even the Virgin Saint , you might think is the best , can end up having reproductive issues....

All is about God anyway........let him heal of the news and ball on if he can....

You can repent because marriage seems a very important goal. After getting married, her past way of life she has gotten accustomed to will be an easy get-away when the challenges of marriage come calling. Character defect that festered for long cannot be corrected overnight with one ceremony. It sticks forever except you are Saul of Tarsus

What if she forgot. Or She knew something was missing but just couldn't . She tried but couldn't . Only a mad man will marry a woman that he caught redhanded in the act while in the relationship. But i trust the man is not mad, so she has not cheated in the relationship. Let him speak with her. They should talk about it.

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Hhuuumm Nollywood movy, when are you releasing part two?

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

Kaiiii...... All hope is not lost. Do there are wise and read ladies like this here. I give you the award of the nairaland land lady of the day....

Rotji:


Women are always the ones that suffer in situations like this.

That his classmate or friend that came to reveal the ladies past, isn't he guilty of the same offence for doing 3some with her yet got the audacity to ask someone not to marry her?! What if it's the other way round and he's the one being exposed for doing 3somes, orgies and all sorts of immoralities and his fiancee is asked not to marry him based on his past?! How will he feel?!

While I'm not saying the lady should be absolved completely, I feel if the guy wanting to marry is a good guy and never engaged in such magnitude of immorality as his to be bride is being accused of he should carry out a very good investigation to the allegations then confront the lady with it. A genuinely repented person will always start any serious relationship by coming clean through revealing their past first, if their new partner is meant for them they will see the genuineness of their hearts and give them a chance.

I strongly believe that guy that made that expose actually deserves to marry a lady like this one if she's truly guilty, cos how will you do nonsense with some girls and feel you deserve reserved, innocent and godly wives?!

He's quick to judge her and forgot he was part of her immoral past.

Talk about removing the your eye before trying to point out the speck in another's

@bolded
A key that opens all locks is a master key, while a lock that is opened by every key is shitty. Ladies should be wise.

muller101:
This kind of case can't be overlooked. The guy will spend the rest of his life with her harboring a feeling of guilt towards her. A day will come which the lady will provoke the guy I am telling you that will be the end of such union. All secretes will be exposed.

hmmmm.The guy is in a very difficult situation .
If the guy feels he can forgive and forget though very difficult for most men to do sha, he can go ahead with the marriage but if he feels it will always come as a flash , he should just move on with his life oo else if it will always come as a flash to the man even if the said lady want to travel or pay a visit to someone else , the man will always don't want to trust the wife.

itumafriday:
Your friend don't need any advice let him advice him self it's a life is a choice any such people are the most decent people to marry if you find the one who genuinely repented.

Fine but should the woman still insist the guy can't hv a side chick?

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

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In the first place, the tipster should mind his own business.

It's a high time people stop poking noise into other people's affairs.

iLegendd:
The rule is:

A woman's past is the most important thing to a man.

A man's future is the most important thing to a woman.

Whoever goes against this will regret. If you marry a man with no future, you'll regret as a woman. If you marry a woman with a terrible past that you're already aware of, it will haunt you for life and you'll regret marrying her.

I don't know where these mentalities come from.

Why should a woman's past be more important to a man than a man's past to a woman? Why should a man's future be more important to a woman than a woman's future to a man?

What do you mean by "a woman's past", what do you mean by "a man's future?" Are they not both a set of human beings?

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. A woman has a past, so does a man. A man has a future, so does a woman. Both timelines should be important to both genders.

These stereotypes sometimes are illogical, to me.

The guy needs to carry out more investigations before confronting the lady. The informant should also be able to bring more proofs to the table, like, which club in Lagos, what year and so on. This is the first test of his marriage, he should pray about that.

I just pity guys yet to marry these days. Good girl no too dey like that. Our girls don do olosbo finish!

So amazing that we men are always perfect in all we do.

The devil knows that a woman's master will affect her future negatively...that's y he encourages women to do these stupid stuffs and lie to them that a man should accept a woman's past and that a woman can sleep with as many men as she likes....that's the lie the devil thru his demons used to destroy the world

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

This girl abi 😂😂😂

You said the guy loves her and is already thinking of traveling out to settle down with her.

Now, you come Nairaland come dey whine us.

Shey, na Nairaland advice the guy go follow ni?

Dey play.

Elzazzi:


So because I no get work i go post this kind thing here ? I would have post the Wedding IV but the guy hasn’t confronted the lady yet and he’s still pondering on what action he will take next. It’s funny as you said it’s fake as if such things don’t happen. Well it doesn’t matter if you believe or not. I only posted so others can learn, especially ladies

although if the lady was on nairaland, just seeing this will make her know she is the one u are talking about. Even ur friends cousin too will know it his story u are talking about.

If the lady in question have not told the guy about this her past, then it's not her past, it's still her present,God knows what she is currently into now in Abuja that the guy do not no about, if your past is your past you most be willing to share it with the person you cleme you love and ready to spend the rest of your life with.QED

davit:
I just pity guys yet to marry these days. Good girl no too dey like that. Our girls don do olosbo finish!

Before, I will disagree with you totally on this. But these days, the situation is terribly terrible except we want to deceive ourselves.

Oloshoism get varieties.
Hardly will you come across a girl that does not belong to a variety .

Truth is sometimes like bitter leaf.

As long as he won’t blame God later, he can go ahead. I’m humbly holding brief against blaming God for what we use our hands to orchestrate.
Cos if she had but loved him, he wouldn’t be hearing it from another’s mouth for the first time given the seriousness of the “relationship.”
Shalom!

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

You sound highly intelligent. Any chance of getting to know you more please? A DM won't be a bad idea. Thanks in anticipation