NewStats: 3,263,881 , 8,181,728 topics. Date: Sunday, 08 June 2025 at 02:27 PM m3f5n

BlackfireX:
Why is SE above SW?



It is the SW that should be above SE

Lol!

Nadingo:
Northern Nigerian women are no doubt the most, pious, humble and decent of all Nigerian women. I don't agree with the stats for South East. Theirs should be around 70%.

You have not been to the north or even been around northern women then you would know that una be learner for South.

IPDGP:

Bro na area u grow up dey determine, well not affecting all shaa

I ain't your bro

Axis313:
This is pure lust,none of them know what love is.
And when the "breakfast" come,I am very sure it will be served by the boy,he is a player.

Says who. A man in Ekiti married his wife when he was in Secondary school and his 132yrs do the maths.

IPDGP:


2011 I dey 300level and my first sex was js1, na u no jaas

What a word?! First sex in JSS 1. It is finished.

inoki247:
Lol...


Dem Dey TikTok doing Omo lodun sope purrr ..



When WAEC result comes out in flying shock now they will start blaming WAEC for dere results....

Unfortunately most of them had already GCE or would hang onto NeCo as NECO exams is come and correct the wrongs you have made in WAEC

FalseProphet1:
I see that girl committing 6 abortion before she reaches 21, I see her calling men scum, I see her at Shiloh looking for a husband at 35.

This I have seen.

Fake! most single mom are even doing well in the society to he only problem is many men are irresponsible.

joeyswift:
I present to you the leaders of tomorrow.

We ain't got none! No future Lawyers Doctors or engineers

illicit:
That's what happens when sec school boys get dollars from internet and the girls have social media s and the parents are poor...

These almost all secondary school students have an Android phone 📱 and who the hell is buying these girls data?

Peakdesign23:
They clearly don't have an iota of home training. They don't know what lies ahead in future. This is disgusting!

You did your in hiding, right?

Namelesscoder:
Hi people, I just created this post to actually share my concerns regarding Nigerian companies, even if they are making millions, they don’t want the workers to live any meaningful life.

Recently had my sister visiting me in my area due to an appointment she had at US embassy and we get talking, I got to understand her husband who is a store manager for a brewery company is only been paid 80,000 naira per month, this man has 3 kids and that got me really worried.

I’m into software development and social media management and only one of the project I handle their contents pay me $65 USD weekly which is 105,000 naira (attached) and I manage up to 4 different s plus other web development gigs that do comes once in while.

I don’t even need to leave my house or do any physical work for this company and I’m earning 420,000 naira monthly for just creating their tweets and contents to post online.


In saner climes, like Norway for example, store manager earns nothing less than $3500 pm and it’s the same amount of work both managers will be required to complete.


Why are Nigerians underpaying their workers? We have so many frustrated working class in the country.

Your concern about the disparity in salaries between Nigerian companies and their international counterparts is valid. The issue of underpayment is multifaceted, involving economic factors, industry standards, and cultural attitudes toward compensation.

Key Factors Contributing to Underpayment:
1. Economic Conditions: Nigeria's economic challenges, including inflation and currency fluctuations, impact salary scales.
2. Industry Standards: Different industries have varying pay scales, often influenced by profit margins and competition.
3. Lack of Regulation: Weak labor laws and enforcement can lead to exploitation.
4. Skill Demand: High demand for certain skills, like software development, can drive up pay in those areas.

Potential Solutions:
1. Advocacy for Labor Rights: Strengthening labor laws and enforcement can help protect workers.
2. Industry Standards: Companies can adopt fair pay practices, recognizing the value of their employees.
3. Skill Development: Investing in education and training can increase the supply of skilled workers, potentially driving up wages.

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I saw her chat with her boyfriend meanwhile we are married for 13 years with 3 children.

Since that day am done with her and have told her she should leave am no longer interested.

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ChrisblaOffurum:
Never be loyal to a woman.

Dohwho:
Don’t bring your wife abroad. Don’t try it

Why?

Person wey never touch 10m go think sey e dey change life 😔

benydy:
Marrying out of pity and also marrying a man older than me with ten years

Regina Daniels comes to mind

False

HeatSeeker:
One of the craziest things that can be done in Lagos is to work for two companies at the same time. Even if na remote work you dey do, you are sure to run mad at some point

In today’s Nigeria, having one job is barely enough to survive, let alone thrive. The rising cost of living, stagnant wages, inflation, and lack of social systems have forced many people to juggle two or even three jobs just to make ends meet.

What used to be considered “hustling” is now a basic survival strategy. From 9–5 jobs to weekend gigs, freelance work, small businesses, and online side hustles—this is the new face of the working Nigerian.

It’s not about ambition anymore—it’s about necessity.

How many jobs are you doing?

Using high-profile families like Seyi Tinubu and Kiddwaya to draw conclusions about how average people should live with or around their parents is a false equivalence. These are ultra-wealthy individuals whose lives operate in entirely different socio-economic realities. Seyi Tinubu might live close to his father, but he likely has autonomy, privacy, and resources that make proximity easier and healthier.

For the average Nigerian, living with parents in adulthood often comes with conflict, guilt-tripping, unhealthy dependencies, or emotional manipulation. It’s not always about love—it’s sometimes about control. That’s why many leave: not to run from love, but to preserve sanity.

“Who made the rule that we must run away from our parents?”
That’s a powerful question. But the truth is: no one made that rule—life did. Job opportunities are in Lagos or abroad. Rent is high. Parents sometimes live in rural or less developed areas. Movement isn’t rebellion; it’s a survival response to a dysfunctional system.

Also, “running away” is not the same as “building your own life”. Just because someone doesn’t live in the same house with their parents doesn’t mean they’re disconnected, heartless, or irresponsible. Emotional presence can be more meaningful than physical presence—especially if the physical presence is toxic, burdensome, or unsustainable.

“May God bless us to change these dynamics” — But how?
Yes, may God bless us—but we need more than blessings. We need:

Better systems: where elderly care is not a private burden but a shared societal one (healthcare, pensions, networks).

Healthy family boundaries: where love doesn’t mean suffocation or emotional debt.

Generational empathy: where both parents and children understand that change doesn’t mean abandonment.


The goal isn’t to run from parents or stay with them no matter what. The goal is to build emotionally healthy, respectful, and mutually enriching relationships, whether that’s in the same house, the same city, or across the world. Let’s not shame people who choose space. Let’s not idealize public figures whose lives most of us can’t relate to. And let’s certainly not equate physical distance with moral failure.

Acidosis:
Whenever I see threads like this, I think of Seyi Tinubu and his father. Seyi is married with children, by the way. The same applies to Kiddwaya and his father, among others.

I believe the struggles and challenges of this world have imposed certain rules and cultures on us. Who made the rule that we must run away from our parents when no one is truly pursuing us.

May God continue to bless and provide for us to change these dynamics. It is well.

1. “Parents chose to have children, children didn’t choose to be born.”
Yes, parents make the choice, but let’s not reduce that choice to a mere transaction. True, bringing a child into the world comes with responsibility, but the reciprocal bond that forms isn’t purely obligation-based. Children didn’t ask to be born—but once here, they benefit immensely from the sacrifices and devotion of their parents.

Moral debt exists, even when legal obligation doesn’t. While it's true that children didn't choose to be born, once they become adults and benefit from what their parents sowed (especially in struggling societies where parents often suffer deeply for their kids to survive), choosing not to give back because “they chose to have me” feels emotionally and culturally shallow.

2. “Children grow up and leave home—it's natural.”
True, but leaving the home doesn’t mean abandoning the relationship. Yes, the Bible says a man shall leave his father and mother—but that’s in the context of building a marriage, not severing all forms of intimacy, care, or presence. Cultural evolution has made “leaving” too absolute.

In traditional African societies, even after marriage, many men brought their aging parents under the same roof, not just out of obligation, but honor. Modernity should not erase values—it should enhance them with more tools to uphold them (remote work, financial independence, better healthcare, etc.).

3. “Parents are to be with each other till death, not with their children.”
That’s a technical framing of marriage, but life is rarely that black and white. Companionship between parents is not a substitute for the joy of children’s presence—especially when one parent has died or when health deteriorates. A spouse can’t fill all gaps—emotional variety matters.

It’s dangerous to suggest aged parents should just find friends or church groups. That’s a system, yes—but it’s not the emotional weight or deep bond a child offers, especially in cultures where extended family has always been the bedrock of aging well.

4. “We shouldn’t birth kids just to have them care for us.”
Agreed—parenthood shouldn't be transactional. But you can’t separate the intergenerational contract that has kept communities strong for centuries. In many cultures, it’s not about grooming kids for service—it's about building continuity. Not everyone sees care in old age as a burden—some see it as a privilege.

We don’t say people shouldn’t pursue careers because work is hard. Why then do we demonize parenting as a painful gamble if kids might fail us? That's a pessimistic worldview. Parenting, like love, is a risk—but one that builds legacies, not just obligations.

5. “Children might bring heartache, so it’s better not to expect much.”
That’s a position rooted in fear and disappointment, not hope or duty. Of course, some children stray or become ungrateful. But that doesn’t justify withdrawing from the ideal of mutual care. If we use exceptions to define norms, we risk excusing ourselves from higher moral ground.

6. “Living with parents isn’t necessary to honor them.”
You're right that physical presence isn’t the only measure of love—but in the context of aging, vulnerability, and loneliness, presence does matter. Not always full-time cohabitation, but availability, involvement, and regular emotional connection. Money is helpful, but money doesn’t hold a frail hand at 3am.

On Pansophist and the girl in your parents' care:
Your family’s decision to raise and a non-relative is beautiful. That girl is lucky and your is irable. But her presence does not replace the presence of a child. It complements it. Your parents filled a gap—yes. But it’s not ideal to build family care systems on substitutes when the biological family still exists and can show up.

Finally, the point isn’t that everyone must live with their parents. It’s about rethinking the modern narrative that sees aged parents as inconvenient, and the moral laziness that detaches emotional proximity from physical .

Our cultural shift should not be toward independence at the cost of family—it should be toward balanced autonomy that doesn’t forget the shoulders we stood on.

Let’s debate these issues not with fear of emotional blackmail or guilt—but with gratitude, empathy, and a sense of duty rooted not in obligation, but in honor.

Klass99:


I think you have a good point but Pansophist also made some valid points, your response and reaction to him wasn't necessary.

Let's try and debate the issue sensibly and in a civil manner.

1. The difference between parents and children is that, parents made a choice to have children and that choice comes with responsibilities and obligations some of which you listed above. Children on the other hand didn't make a choice to come into this world, to have parents or to have the sort of situation OP is in thrust upon them. As children we try to make the best of it, by doing good, doing right and doing well by our parents.

2. It is a natural course of life that children will grow up one day and leave home. This is a normal and old practice, even the bible talks about a man leaving his parents to cleave to his wife. We leave the nest to build our lives and live out our dreams or purpose, most times that means physically parting from parents and leaving them behind.

3. Parents and children were never meant to be together until death do them part. That is an exclusive reserve of married couples. The OP"s parents are the ones who should be together till death does them part. I understand the sentiment you expressed about parents being old, doing things for us and wanting us around in old age, but I think what most of them truly need is companionship.

4. It can be companionship from one another as a couple, from their friends, church community, or a group of people with same interests, etc. It must not necessarily be from the physical presence of their children. This is one of the reasons why I believe companionship is more important in marriage than children. I also don't like this idea we have of birthing kids so they can look after us in old age. It creates scenarios like the one OP is in now and emotional blackmail as well.

5. I cannot relate to the desire or need, to bring non-existent people into existence, just so they can take care of us in old age. It is a lot work if you ask me, because the work you will do for those children before you reach old age, will be more than the work they'll do for you in return. And if they are children who refuse to catch sense, heartache and pain awaits you in old age.

6. So, yes, while parents fed us and took care of us, it was their responsibility and duty to do so, as a matter of the choice they made to bring us into this world. While we also have a duty to do right by them as godly and sensible children, we can do that without necessarily living with them.

My own mother told me once that while they do not see me often they feel my impact from miles away through the financial I provide. Pansophist is not wrong when he says they should adopt children, in my case, we have a young girl of University age who lives with my parents.

She's in her 3rd year now, she's not a blood relative, I don't know how or where my mum found her but they've put her through primary and secondary school, now she's almost through with University.

I am more quick to send that girl pocket money for her personal use, than I am, to send to some of my own blood relatives. Blood is not thicker than water for me when it comes to that girl, the value she has provided and continues to provide exceeds the value some blood relatives have provided.