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Both genders can be guilty of this. As Samantha125 said above.

Adanambra1:




I Like to add to all our dear Promiscuous Men
its either you turn a new leaf and start living a Discipline Life. i am not even preaching Religion Here


OR else, you all will reap what you sow

Nature has a way of giving you back what you have sown

1. You will never see a wife Material in the Club or Lounge. na them TikTok Baddies full club house

2. Mothers nd Fathers who take time to train their daughters are very intentional about them, some time those crop of wife material get husbands quick by recommendations of Family Friends and Ummunna


3. No wife Material is super Active on Instagram or Snap Chat posting Alluring Pictures from Hotel rooms, Nice Cars or Vacation
They may have an Instagram but hardly posting.

Transactional Ladies have used Instagram as their showroom to display their goods, its a shop, a business center
no decent homely girl or virgin or whatever will post cleavage breast eye popping pictures 3 times a week on her socials

Chaste homely girls don't open breast or show breast, they are usually Timid, Shy,
at some times plenty acnes, pimples, so sometimes they will not make your picture perfect , they can be very pretty and beautiful...


4. Most homely decent girls , who are beautiful to not seek for men attention or validation, they can come out as Rude or Bold at times
some have 2 to 3 suitors on the line before they are done with university

so they are very few in the dating pool.


that why some igbo men tell their mothers to look at some families and arrange a homely girl for them for marriage
those girls no dey 25 years

so bad news to those uncles that keep sleeping around. God will not allow you see that good girl. if you see her , you will never recognize her
if you do recognize her. She will decline the relationship offer

for example, when i was unmarried... one of my value system. was I will not get married to A man that Drinks Alcohol no matter what you drive or the funds you control

that because my biological father and Brothers never did Achohol
it was a red Flag for me

if your lines are always busy, amaka, ngozi, Joy , Bola etc na only girls dey call you 247 outside work... and you keep doing phone flirting
that was a red flag for me too
i will not ask you for 1 Naira or any Favour

you dont have business asking me for Sex

Nothing Transactional
pure friendship
good girls have their watchlist also

if you think money is every thing, you are joking
you think u as a Man will continue your ashawo Life, then all our a sudden as an Odogwu with 50 million balance you get an 18 years old achalugo from a decent village in Anambra
Unfortunately most 13yrs to 19yrs old girl virgin spec of yours are currently on Tiktok, Snapchat, Instagram

tweaking and taking tip from other Gen Z tiktok baddies like Aunty Emmanuela, Regina Daniels etc


i live you with this

PROVERBS 19 vs 14
1. House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, and a prudent wife is from the Lord. KJV

2. House and wealth are the inheritance from fathers, But a wise, understanding, and sensible wife is [a gift and blessing] from the Lord. Amblified Bible

3. House and riches are an inheritance from one’s ancestors, but an insightful wife is from the Lord. CEB bible

4. A house and wealth are inherited from ancestors, but a sensible wife is from Adonai. CJB bible

5. You may inherit all you own from your parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the Lord. CEV bible

You may inherit all you own from your parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the Lord.

The question is with that your Promiscous Whoring Lifestyle as a man. WILL the lord recognise you. does God know you as his Son or his own
if you dont have a relationship with someone, how will He give you the gift .

God will only give the gift of a good wife to you. if you have a relationship with him
how many times have you called on God to put his hand for you in finding a wife that will give you Joy?
when will you stop the man whooring life and live a discipline life?
may God HELP all our men

Unfortunately in this life, it's even the bad man or woman that mostly end up with good woman or man

And the reason sometimes is that, the so called bad ones are experienced to choose the good ones.

Back to my initial point, our ladies are fast copying akata and white ladies they see on social media these days. These our women don't know or sometimes even know that majority of akata or white women are single mothers or single cat women till old age.

As our women continue this copy copy, we should expect same singleness epidemic in western countries hitting our society also soon.

franchasng:
Things That Reduces Your Chances of Finding a Worthy Husband in Nigeria As A Nigerian Single Lady Born in Nigeria & Living in Nigeria


I won't bore you with much details, so let's go straight to the point.


As a Nigerian girl born in Nigeria and living in Nigeria, if you want to reduce your chances of finding a worthy husband in Nigeria, do the below things:

Bro, be careful. Why are you braking all guys code na?? You want all these women to increase their pretense games for men??

These are secrets code we use to filter them and you are here throwing the codes out in the open

If the statistics is to be believed. We are not surprised.

And it will get worse more and more.

At last, baby mama and baby daddy will become order of the day in our society like the Yankees.

Since we copy copy from them, most especially naija ladies, following their women.

Not lies. Older women have been and still raping minor boy children all over the world. This is against what the world is made to believe. Recent cases in the US only this year alone.

https://www.wvtm13.com/article/shelby-county-teacher-sex-abuse-enticing-child/64993520

https://people.com/special-education-teacher-accused-sexually-assaulting-student-cries-arrested-police-footage-11707453

https://6abc.com/post/Conestoga-high-school-teacher-Michelle-Mercogliano-charged-sex-with-student/16287990/

https://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/teacher-of-the-year-to-learn-her-fate-after-having-sex-with-student-12/3822415/

https://www.foxnews.com/us/bodycam-shows-teacher-breaking-down-during-arrest-allegedly-molesting-15-year-old-student

https://abc13.com/teachers-accused-inappropriate-relationships-sex-with-students/1478521/

LilMissFavvy:
There should be stiff laws to punish married persons who infect his/her partner with HIV.

That's if infected person knew and ed it on purposely.

In that case, all such sexual partners that did that must be punished, married or not.

This is height of irresponsibility from that man.

Mariangeles:


In your dreams! 🤣🤣🤣

It's the sense of entitlement for me.
Soak garri kor, soak garri ni! 😀

You all should keep playing yourselves.
O ga a nya unu n'eze! 😬

But that's what we men do everyday all over the world. Women will reject us when we were broke but building ourselves. We suck it up.

When we have made it, women will be rushing us and we will still date or marry one of you broke lots based on "good character" only. Men make this sacrifice everyday.

Why is it difficult for you women to date and marry a man that is struggling financially while you have more money Also just on "good character" only

Mariangeles:
A man will respect a lady that built and established herself, more than the one that "suffered and drank garri with him".
Fact!📌

A word is enough for the wise.

Let me help you re-write it.

A man will respect a lady that built, established herself and have other better offers from other men but chose to stay and soak garri with him. OR if she is the one that provided the garri.

That's when a sacrifice is made.

Mariangeles:


Men they're married to? YES!!!
It is a man's RESPONSIBILITY to take care of his wife, and he must step up to it. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼



Is that what you told yourself to make you feel good about yourself?
Now, why would I want to drink garri, when I can afford shawarma?



Taa! 🙄

You can't even try that nonsense on a lady who makes her own money, and knows her worth.

It's not what I tell myself. It is the truth. It's what you lot say when asked to describe a man you want to date and marry. It's what we men see when we date and marry you lots. So it's fact.

And we cannot misuse ladies that make their money??m. You lie. Many of them are being misused here in Texas by us odogwus while they make good money. They used this same mentality of yours to be in that position. In fact, a big majority of them were once married to the Nigerian man that brought them to the US. Once they start making money, they discard their husbands with this same "" mindset of women we are talking about here.

Mariangeles:


Taa!

No sensible lady is expecting y'all to carry jack!
They've got brains to do that themselves, and they know their worth.
I mean, how much can you give? Are you kidding? 🙄
You think it's by shouting?
You think every lady is chingum lady?
You all bother about taking care of yourselves first.

Like I stated earlier, you all should blow first, then you can come for the high value lady.
Otherwise, boy bye!

Nobody dey follow una drink garri again.
Make everybody work out their own salvation.




Oh prrruh! 🙄

No sensible lady expect men to carry their liabilities, you said That means majority of you ladies are not sensible because that is what you lots expect and preach. Even here on Nairaland.

Then you said ladies will not drink garri with us again?? You lot don't drink the garri unless that guy is your best offer at that moment. That garri self you cannot afford to buy it for yourself at that moment you are with him.

Then you said we should come when we make it. Fine. We will come then and misuse your asss.ss by then. You mean nothing to us at that moment.

FORWARDEVERLY:


Hope you didn't marry her ?? Or you are not dating her anylonger ??
Cos that girl na better manipulator o

It's one of the reasons I downgraded her a.ss. I have no time for such manipulation.

Mariangeles:


And why would you expect any lady to do that?
Is that her responsibility?
Is she your mummy?
Does she owe you that or anything for that?
It's the entitlement mentality for me.

Y'all better wake up and smell the coffee, because this manipulation will not work.
Ladies are becoming wiser and investing in themselves instead. They have families they'd rather , than strangers in the name of boyfriend. 🙄
No time to waste on nonsense!

You see their mentality. They cannot do zero of what they expect from a man.

You are asking if she is the man's mother?? But you expect men to carry all your liabilities in life. Is he your father too

And NO, IT IS MEN THAT ARE BECOMING WISER. Women have been s of men from time immemorial.

That was how one was telling me she was with me when I was living in a self contained apartment. The way I washed her d0wn eh, she never tried that rubbish with me again.

This was a lady that was homeless, pulling up with friends, was working a 10k naira monthly salary job, dating a market errand boy when I met her.

Me on the other hand had finished all my suffering. I had been working with number 1 oil company in the world for 6 months earning more than a university professor then, have travelled 2 times to Europe, I bought my first car same month I met her. The so called self contained was a first class apartment.

Another question to ask her is this.

Was she drinking HIS garri with him while Another man in duplex, mansion, driving Benz was toasting her??

Is the adviser independent What's her work to start with??

White western people and marriages should not be in same sentence.

They have no marriages in their society again. What they have left are business ventures or mergers that is only favorable to the women.

A business venture where a woman comes with nothing but leaves with 50pct of the merged venture when the business is dissolved.

Hahahaha. Women don't have to be taught this. It's ingrained in their XX chromosomes and DNA.

Honestly, the woman can easily be caught in this case. This is why many Nigerian wives abroad will not do it.

Kpa.inhg for insurance benefits is the easiest for law enforcement to Crack when it involves a spouse.

Otherwise, many nigerian men would have been gone

The court was right. The land belongs to who paid for it, and developed it.

That western countries feminism of nowadays is like a serious disease. Once it infects a woman, she will end up like this.

There are many of them around and the disease is still spreading like fire. Thanks to social media now .

Greatmec:


Thank you so much for this.

I shall try to translate and gather these items to do exactly as you have informed here.

I hope to give a positive soon.

Do that suggestion sisi told you above first before anything. In fact, travel out of your home for like a week to allow all the effect of anything anti libido thing your wife might be putting in your food to go out of your system.

When you return, don't eat or drink at home. You can even come late well fed outside so that you just go straight to shower and start business with your wife.

Try that and see if there is a difference.

onuku:
Thank you so much for the kind advise. I will do so.

Apply all of her advise up there except the part that she said you should bring out all your assets and table them to your wife. DON'T DO THAT.

From other past experiences in western countries, that method is a highway to divorce courts. She will now have full information about your assets home and abroad that can be used against you in divorce court. Her lawyers will apply their regular "wish list" divorce settlement templates against your asset and you will lose bitterly.

Zackattack:

While I agree with you, I also believe that the need for sexual assault investigations cannot be over-emphasized in this generation of wokeness.
Just a few days ago, I saw a video on Facebook, of a lady threatening to sexually blackmail any man that messes with her.
If we don’t make this allegations go beyond words, most aggrieved women will start weaponizing it.
Senator Natasha and Akpabio is a case in point.

They have started weaponiizing false accusation already.

Case of Thuram of InterMilan is a recent case study. Neymar of Brazil is another, Dani Alves of Brazil, Mendy And many more...

Yes. Sexual offense should be punished but must be backed up with evidence. Most especially as we have seen in recent occurrences around the world where women are falsely accusing men for whatever reasons that suite them. And these women don't get punished for false accusation after their false accusations are revealed.

KaptainAfrika:
When it is your own they will be evidence but they will say technicalities and you won't receive justice.

Direct that to women falsely accusing men of sexual misconduct all over the world.

Even if it is only 2 out of 10 men that are falsely accused, that's enough for sensible people to ask for evidence to avoid punishing the innocent. Most especially as there is no punishment for false acc.

uchkochi:
You Can’t Build a Legacy With a Woman Who Thinks Sacrifice Is Abuse

Let’s be

Today’s woman doesn’t want a partner to grow with.

She wants a lifestyle to walk into.

4. She Wants Rewards—But Refuses the Risk

You took the hits.

The late nights.

The silent seasons.

The skipped luxuries.

Now that it’s paying off?

She shows up with a wig and Wi-Fi—and calls herself “deserving.”

But where was she when you were doubted?

Where was she when you were broke?

The woman who won’t sacrifice with you will sabotage you when it matters.

—

5. Real Love Requires Delay—But She’s in a Hurry

Delayed gratification builds empires.

But she wants: – The wedding, not the work. – The luxury, not the loyalty. – The lifestyle, not the labor.

She thinks she’s being oppressed.

But truth is?

She just hates process.

—

Final Word: A Woman Who Sees Sacrifice as Abuse Will Destroy Your Vision

She’ll label your patience as poverty.

Your structure as suppression.

Your silence as stonewalling.

And by the time she realizes the weight you were carrying?

She’ll be watching you succeed—with someone who respected the price.

So choose wisely.

Because love is not just about who excites you.

It’s about who endures with you.

And if she can't suffer now?

She doesn't deserve the soft life later.
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You nailed this one

Haba? You just have to manage the MIL in this situation. Average yoruba elderly people will behave like this because they believe in all those old traditions.

Just go joke and apologize to mama. She is only being an old Grand Mother to her Grand child while you are also doing your job as the mother.

And it's not only your MIL that tend to spoil grandchildren. Majority do it because of the joy they have around their ground children. I personally was over spoilt by my grandmothers when I was little. I didn't meet my grandfathers, but my grandmothers finished me with enjoyment

onuku:
We both are from Imo state.

In this day and age; single income can't sustain an average household anymore.

All I am saying is that isn't she supposed to chip in the family expenses aside grocery. Here, 3 of the kids have their breakfast and lunch in their respective schools.

Lastly, I am compelled to inform her parents of what's going on!

You are not alone in this issue abroad. Most of the families that relocated abroad face similar issue for madams to adjust to helping financially. Same way our brothers also find it hard to adjust in some ways.

Just keep pushing for it and be patient. With time, discussion and family intervention, she will adjust. But it's usually a hard battle for most families I know here in the US. Some might even divorce or nearly divorce before they agree.

Truth of the matter here is western countries are not built for 1 income to raise a family. It's just the needful. I pray God helps your family to pull through this stage.

unzend:
Hello everyone, I need your opinions on this issue that’s causing some interesting situation at home.

I’ve been working fully remote for two years now, taking care of the kids and managing the house after moving into a state in Nigeria from Lag. (I was hybrid before and go to Lag weekly before- not easy). Last Friday, my wife came back home from Lag - we stiĺl maintain our house there cos she works there , and everything just went upside down.


I stepped outside to take get somewhere, and she checked my phone (we’re recently being locking phones). She saw a pregnancy scan on my phone that mentioned something about “breech presentation.” The thing is, this scan isn’t mine! It belongs to my Farm worker’s wife. He showed it to me while talking about her condition, and I took a picture to keep it for him for hospital records and future reference. That’s all.

When my wife saw it, her mood changed instantly. She started asking me tough questions, but I gave vague answers cos I knew her tendedncy to have persismistic thoughts and conclusions. Haha! She concluded I got another woman pregnant. Before I knew it, she called my mum, then my dad. That same evening, my dad came over to comfort her. From his expression, it looked like he also thought I messed up. I just excused myself and left the room.

Now, my mum and dad have called me, saying they’re disappointed and telling me to repent from “adultery.” I got upset and told them I’m a grown man who can make my own choices, and I haven’t done anything wrong.

She informed all my in-laws and says my FIL is really angry.

The while situation has sent my wife into a spiral—she’s paranoid, heartbroken, and acting sick. She’s telling me to pay off this “woman,” block her, and never speak to her again. I told her I won’t do that cos the woman may have being her!

Right now, I’m just letting things sit to see how it plays out, but the tension between us is heavy. My wife is not herself, and my parents are treating me like I’ve sinned. She even acted up to the point She was prophesying my Downfall cos of my Adultery. Like in the spirit the 30 minutes straight. I just dey shake my head.

What's your opinion about this, I plan to keep it on for as long as I can withstand the drama.

What kind of stooopid drama is that you are looking for

If you didn't impregnate another woman, stop the drama now. Don't cause unnecessary trouble in your marriage.

Caaz:

Kobojunkie my love,stop misleading women,you re in a sane country where things are working perfectly,the govt even offer shelter and free Meals.


Now let us be realistic....this is nigeria,most family are struggling,i assist my husband,he didnt compared me,i do it just to ease the burden from him,because that's the essence of being married.


This man has carried this(Billing)for 15yrs,it will not be out of place for his wife to assist with some bills,if she contribute the heavens will not fall.

Even in the "sane country", women assist their family financially. The "sane countries" are built for 2 income households.

onuku:
The marriage is over 15 years. Husband was taking care of everything throughout the period during the marriage. She started working last year's January, and started doing feeding for a family of 5 last July. 3 months ago, we agreed that she will also contribute some money towards utilities. She contributed towards utilities for 2 months and stopped. Reason being that she doesn't have money

You just have to continue to insist and be patient.

This is how many women are, home and abroad.

A man can shoulder all the responsibility for years, nobody will hear outside. Let the woman do it for 2 months, problems will be everywhere.