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My ex boyfriend broke up with me shortly before I went for service, citing irreconcilable differences. It coincided with a period that he had a setback in business that made him lose a huge amount of money and left him in debt, I tried my best to him but he still accused me of lack of empathy towards his situation because of a comment that I made.

It has not been easy for me since I left for camp, and I'm still suffering, most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters. I've been receiving a huge amount of attention from men in Abuja though I haven't given in to any because I think I'm still in love with my ex. I miss him a lot and I haven't found someone that I can share that kind of bond with.

I've been communicating constantly with my ex since we broke up, in fact I still tell him everything that goes on in my life including about my numerous toasters. He's been ive although not financially. He tells me that he misses me too but unfortunately he can't sustain a relationship now because he can barely feed at the moment. He once told me that we're just casual friends and it hurt me to the extent that I nearly had sex with one of my toasters just to forget him but couldn't stand any guy touching me.

There's a man that has been on my neck for a while now, he's been helping me financially but I'm not attracted to him and I don't think I can date him. All my attempts to put him off has failed so far. He took me out for breakfast this morning when my ex called, he noticed I was with someone and insisted that I was in the guys place, I suggested a video call in order to convince him but the man wouldn't let me make the call. He got angry and almost caused a scene insisting I must tell him who he is to me, I was recording the conversation and forwarding to my ex who told me to stop playing games. He told me to either date the man if I want to or tell him plainly that I'm not interested.

I couldn't give the man an answer because I still need his help for the main time. My ex got angry and called me a confused and self centered person, he said I should go on and date the man just because he's my meal ticket just because I told him that the man has been the one feeding me.

The man on the other hand told me to tell my ex to stop disturbing me since we are no longer dating, he was visibly angry and wanted to call my ex to threaten him to hands off me. He still ended up giving me a modest amount of money after the whole fracas.

Now I don't know how to handle my ex, he hasn't told me that he wants me back and even if he does it might not work because he's broke at the moment and I will have to keep talking to other men which he doesn't like. I don't get intimate with any of them, I just friend zone them till they eventually give up and leave.

I need ideas on how to go about this issue please.

What kinda confusing post is this...


Ithink you and your ex are confused... You guys don't know what y'all want...

This min he is saying he can't date you cos of his current status... The next he is saying he wants to know who you are with...

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And sister truth be told you see all those men you are calling saviours(most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters) when e happen just know you are on your own



You couldn't give the man an answer because you still needed his help for the main time



Women like you are why this good for nothing gender insults us...

To them nothing is free... Ino fit lie give you...

Shikena

After your Nysc.

You didn't care to look for a job.

You didn't care to learn a skill.

You didn't care to think of how you can help those people that trained you in school.

All you cared for,is looking for toasters that helps you financially.

Mr.Lalami my OG, please share the good news once again.

Olosho dey this OP eyes.

If a woman could know what she wants, look at this one, you have people who want to care for you and treat you like a woman but you are attracted to toxicity and drama like fly to shit ... My advice Is stop stringing your financial aid (simp) along and let him know how you feel about him so he can have some self worth, and then face your barely able to feed ex boyfriend because you love him. 😂 Women . I see why God of the Bible had to wait a while before he created women. And the fact that you were not created from sand, rather you were created from BONE, rings true in your actions 😂 if that is not enough, I also realized that God DID NOT breath the breath of life into eve that is why Dem kala gan.


But on a serious note, leave that EX. You can never have the same image in his mind and at best you will just be an option. Which means there is still plenty of heartbreak ahead of you follow your emotions.

Man dey take you out for 2024 and you dey do anyhow ? For this 2024? Haha 😂😂

Doolove:
My ex boyfriend broke up with me shortly before I went for service, citing irreconcilable differences. It coincided with a period that he had a setback in business that made him lose a huge amount of money and left him in debt, I tried my best to him but he still accused me of lack of empathy towards his situation because of a comment that I made.

It has not been easy for me since I left for camp, and I'm still suffering, most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters. I've been receiving a huge amount of attention from men in Abuja though I haven't given in to any because I think I'm still in love with my ex. I miss him a lot and I haven't found someone that I can share that kind of bond with.

I've been communicating constantly with my ex since we broke up, in fact I still tell him everything that goes on in my life including about my numerous toasters. He's been ive although not financially. He tells me that he misses me too but unfortunately he can't sustain a relationship now because he can barely feed at the moment. He once told me that we're just casual friends and it hurt me to the extent that I nearly had sex with one of my toasters just to forget him but couldn't stand any guy touching me.

There's a man that has been on my neck for a while now, he's been helping me financially but I'm not attracted to him and I don't think I can date him. All my attempts to put him off has failed so far. He took me out for breakfast this morning when my ex called, he noticed I was with someone and insisted that I was in the guys place, I suggested a video call in order to convince him but the man wouldn't let me make the call. He got angry and almost caused a scene insisting I must tell him who he is to me, I was recording the conversation and forwarding to my ex who told me to stop playing games. He told me to either date the man if I want to or tell him plainly that I'm not interested.

I couldn't give the man an answer because I still need his help for the main time. My ex got angry and called me a confused and self centered person, he said I should go on and date the man just because he's my meal ticket just because I told him that the man has been the one feeding me.

The man on the other hand told me to tell my ex to stop disturbing me since we are no longer dating, he was visibly angry and wanted to call my ex to threaten him to hands off me. He still ended up giving me a modest amount of money after the whole fracas.

Now I don't know how to handle my ex, he hasn't told me that he wants me back and even if he does it might not work because he's broke at the moment and I will have to keep talking to other men which he doesn't like. I don't get intimate with any of them, I just friend zone them till they eventually give up and leave.

I need ideas on how to go about this issue please.

You just need a meal ticket and really confused cos all you your points keep pointing at financial aids.

whytevardy:
After your Nysc.

You didn't care to look for a job.

You didn't care to learn a skill.

You didn't care to think of how you can help those people that trained you in school.

All you cared for,is looking for toasters that helps you financially.

Mr.Lalami my OG, please share the good news once again.

I'm not done, just left camp recently

That guy should cut s with you
🙏🏽
And in the next 2-3 years when he gets back on his feet God will send him an actual helper

dawnomike:
You just need a meal ticket and really confused cos all you your points keep pointing at financial aids.

She's a Nigerian girl. They're always hungry.

Summary please

MOVE ON FROM YOUR EX OR REJECT THE CURRENT ONE.

IT'S AS EASY AS THAT.

I am beginning to appreciate the fact that I prefer OLOSHO. I no get time nor energy for emotional and mental stress o. E dey draining. If na me be the new man, I for don turn you to SISTER IN THE LORD tay tay, because these kinda relationships no dey last.

Proserpina:
Summary please

She dey F one rich dude for her meal ticket but still dey obsessed with her ex.

Its a choice between not going hungry and her obsession with her ex.

jorion:


She dey F one rich dude for her meal ticket but still dey obsessed with her ex.

Its a choice between not going hungry and her obsession with her ex.

She can keep both nah

Proserpina:
She can keep both nah

But them don know each other na. So, everything don cast.

She go eventually lose both of them so make she enjoy while it last.

E get things wey men no dey overlook in the long run.

SPEAKING AS A MAN

jorion:


But them don know each other na. So, everything don cast.

She go eventually lose both of them so make she enjoy while it last.

E get things wey men no dey overlook in the long run.

SPEAKING AS A MAN

Oh...

That's how it always ends... Loss Person no fit chase two rats without losing both

Down2earth101:


What kinda confusing post is this...


Ithink you and your ex are confused... You guys don't know what y'all want...

This min he is saying he can't date you cos of his current status... The next he is saying he wants to know who you are with...

---

And sister truth be told you see all those men you are calling saviours(most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters) when e happen just know you are on your own



You couldn't give the man an answer because you still needed his help for the main time



Women like you are why this good for nothing gender insults us...

To them nothing is free... Ino fit lie give you...

Shikena

As if you hungry girls can do without the good for nothing genders. Tueh on your smelling wig[b][/b]

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Bola4boy:
As if you hungry girls can do without the good for nothing genders. Tueh on your smelling wig[b][/b]

🗑️ 🗑️

TALES of a broke Nigerian girl

Sigh!! ...see somebody that loving parents sent to college...only to come out and become parasite to men because of greed....

And I suspect all this parasitic behavior is not because of ordinary food...

Una wey don born girls....na serious work una give unaself ooooo

When a girl doesn't know what she wants

If a guy wants you, you would see the signs, if he doesn't want you, you would be getting conflicting signals.

This attention you are getting will not last for ever. Make use of it now before it becomes too late. In no distance time, the attention you would be getting from men would reduce and you would be left regretting.


Make hay while the sun shines, love is never enough

Confusing post

Hungry lady….sooner or later you will regret it… instead of you to move on and leave the ex and talking about obsession…you will learn in the hard way. I just pity the guy spoiling u with money. Person wey suppose run u street

Collecting money from toasters with no intention of dating or giving them the cookie jar is quite risky. body go tell you soon.

Tell that your ex to stay on his lane if he won't take you back.. It's glaring OP still likes the guy, seems he gather well well for the groin area. She is missing something meaty

Doolove:
My ex boyfriend broke up with me shortly before I went for service, citing irreconcilable differences. It coincided with a period that he had a setback in business that made him lose a huge amount of money and left him in debt, I tried my best to him but he still accused me of lack of empathy towards his situation because of a comment that I made.

It has not been easy for me since I left for camp, and I'm still suffering, most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters. I've been receiving a huge amount of attention from men in Abuja though I haven't given in to any because I think I'm still in love with my ex. I miss him a lot and I haven't found someone that I can share that kind of bond with.

I've been communicating constantly with my ex since we broke up, in fact I still tell him everything that goes on in my life including about my numerous toasters. He's been ive although not financially. He tells me that he misses me too but unfortunately he can't sustain a relationship now because he can barely feed at the moment. He once told me that we're just casual friends and it hurt me to the extent that I nearly had sex with one of my toasters just to forget him but couldn't stand any guy touching me.

There's a man that has been on my neck for a while now, he's been helping me financially but I'm not attracted to him and I don't think I can date him. All my attempts to put him off has failed so far. He took me out for breakfast this morning when my ex called, he noticed I was with someone and insisted that I was in the guys place, I suggested a video call in order to convince him but the man wouldn't let me make the call. He got angry and almost caused a scene insisting I must tell him who he is to me, I was recording the conversation and forwarding to my ex who told me to stop playing games. He told me to either date the man if I want to or tell him plainly that I'm not interested.

I couldn't give the man an answer because I still need his help for the main time. My ex got angry and called me a confused and self centered person, he said I should go on and date the man just because he's my meal ticket just because I told him that the man has been the one feeding me.

The man on the other hand told me to tell my ex to stop disturbing me since we are no longer dating, he was visibly angry and wanted to call my ex to threaten him to hands off me. He still ended up giving me a modest amount of money after the whole fracas.

Now I don't know how to handle my ex, he hasn't told me that he wants me back and even if he does it might not work because he's broke at the moment and I will have to keep talking to other men which he doesn't like. I don't get intimate with any of them, I just friend zone them till they eventually give up and leave.

I need ideas on how to go about this issue please.

De mumu yourself ontop ex instead of to move on with your life.

Situationship leleyii Ooo

Don't mean to bash...

Or critizise but between you and your ex I can't decide who is more confused.

Even the toaster at the date that still gave you a modest amount afterwards is also confused for going ahead with an adult that cannot make up her mind what she wants.

Because obviously if he starts dating you, you will still run back to your ex anytime he beckons!

This post confirm daddy freeze words that dating a Nigerian girl is like adopting an orphan

In all the op typed, she never talked about working for her money or having any plans

It's basically about getting handouts from numerous toasters or financial from men

Omo I thank goodness say I don marry ooo, imagine how a girl is living her life, op u have to understand that he who pays d Piper dictates d tune.

Those men pay u n they can make u mad, u can only b free when u get productive and make your own money then u won't b tied down like a goat to men giving u financial

This movie sweet oh

How about your family? Did you fall from the sky?

Doolove:
My ex boyfriend broke up with me shortly before I went for service, citing irreconcilable differences. It coincided with a period that he had a setback in business that made him lose a huge amount of money and left him in debt, I tried my best to him but he still accused me of lack of empathy towards his situation because of a comment that I made.

It has not been easy for me since I left for camp, and I'm still suffering, most times I feed from the goodwill of toasters. I've been receiving a huge amount of attention from men in Abuja though I haven't given in to any because I think I'm still in love with my ex. I miss him a lot and I haven't found someone that I can share that kind of bond with.

I've been communicating constantly with my ex since we broke up, in fact I still tell him everything that goes on in my life including about my numerous toasters. He's been ive although not financially. He tells me that he misses me too but unfortunately he can't sustain a relationship now because he can barely feed at the moment. He once told me that we're just casual friends and it hurt me to the extent that I nearly had sex with one of my toasters just to forget him but couldn't stand any guy touching me.

There's a man that has been on my neck for a while now, he's been helping me financially but I'm not attracted to him and I don't think I can date him. All my attempts to put him off has failed so far. He took me out for breakfast this morning when my ex called, he noticed I was with someone and insisted that I was in the guys place, I suggested a video call in order to convince him but the man wouldn't let me make the call. He got angry and almost caused a scene insisting I must tell him who he is to me, I was recording the conversation and forwarding to my ex who told me to stop playing games. He told me to either date the man if I want to or tell him plainly that I'm not interested.

I couldn't give the man an answer because I still need his help for the main time. My ex got angry and called me a confused and self centered person, he said I should go on and date the man just because he's my meal ticket just because I told him that the man has been the one feeding me.

The man on the other hand told me to tell my ex to stop disturbing me since we are no longer dating, he was visibly angry and wanted to call my ex to threaten him to hands off me. He still ended up giving me a modest amount of money after the whole fracas.

Now I don't know how to handle my ex, he hasn't told me that he wants me back and even if he does it might not work because he's broke at the moment and I will have to keep talking to other men which he doesn't like. I don't get intimate with any of them, I just friend zone them till they eventually give up and leave.

I need ideas on how to go about this issue please.

A guy will go for youth service and manage with the small allowee and still save something without cheating on his babe he left at home, but a girl will go and almost date\sleep with all the guys in the camp and during service just to "meet her needs'' . Guys should please explain the " magic" to ladies so that they can stop cheating on their guys as if it was a normal thing

You make me more confused