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If you can afford it (unfortunately, law enforcement engagement cost money in Nigeria) petition Commissioner of Police, Eleyele, Ibadan. Police has Human Right Department where thy they can enforce her compliance in attending the interview.

Thereafter, you may also consider taking legal action (court), the family has Family Court Units to handle such issues.

Thank you.

May God never barb me this style in Jesus' name.

I wonder how you had so many kids with this kind of person.

If you have no discipline, you might decide to sleep with just any kind of person, but there are some people you shouldn't sire kids with.

Not to sound classist, but having kids with the daughter of an Ogogoro seller?

You laid your bed, you are now being forced to lie on it, and having nightmares.

Cut your losses and move on, as it is clear you don't even have the financial capacity to fight the daughter of an Ogogoro and her mother.

Move on!!!

Toymax88:
Previous posts:

https://nairaland.moviesx.org/8416437/update-mother-in-law-selling-ogogoro


Good evening and happy new week, nlders

I called the officer in charge at the ministry of women affairs and social inclusions, IBADAN and she asked me to come this morning, so I set out for the journey around 8:30am.

It's quasi 1:00pm when I got to the ministry which Is located beside the NDLEA office. Immediately I introduced myself, the woman (officer in charge) called the MIL that she should make herself, wife and children available at her office (the phone was on speaker) and I was asked to go and stay outside while she's attending to other people with similar issues. They demanded for #4k i.e. 1k for the letter and 3k for the delivery of the letter at BARIKA

When it's half past 3:00pm, they didn't show up as promised and the woman had to call the mother in-law again and this time around her phone number was switched off, my babies Mama's phone number was not available too.

The officer in charge then told me that there's nothing they could do, she then advised to visit the office of the NSCDC office around Mokola roundabout or SANGO police station. I opted for SANGO police station and she directed me to a policewoman.


I got to the police station and explained my predicament to the policewoman, who demanded for a mobilization fee, I left the police station with the promise to come back. Initially the policewoman was reluctant, saying they don't normally meddle in a matter being handled by the Social Welfare office but she later agreed to assist

My instinct told me to quickly rushed down to their family house at BARIKA, UI second gate, just to check if the MIL was at home or not. The MIL, babies mama and the kids were no where to be found, the door was under lock and key.

Somebody directed me to other family who are mainly women (the husbands are dead). I explained everything to them with anger and frustration written all over my face. The eldest of the 3 women told that they would see to it. I told them my request that all I wanted is the enrollment of the children in schools and I took my leave

The cost of transportation within Ibadan (town service) is very high plus other expenses at the welfare office, all these gulped my money. I got to the bus terminal at OJOO and I was told that the transport fare to ILORIN is #6,500. I only had 4k left left in my pocket and this was y I was asking for a financial help on NAIRALAND but nobody came to my aid

I opted for ONE CHANCE (4k with AC) and while on the transit, a man bought 3 sachet water and gave me 1, when we alighted and had no means of getting home, I approached the man again and he gave me #500.. The man is working with a research institute in IBADAN but he's from Ilorin, his younger brother married my ex ( the girl is hails Agbaluku -Arigidi, Ikare -Akoko Ondo state). She's also a resident of IBADAN.


UPDATE

I just received a call from NSCDC office at Agodi, Ibadan. They asked me to come but I told them the complainant should give them to bring the letter of invitation to me in ILORIN. I want her feel what I'm feeling, I have to Ibadan 5 times and now they want me to come again. The NSCDC official was telling me that I shouldn't do that.

I told her I was stranded yesterday when I came.

Update

Who's to blame for the communication gap

I called the officer in charge in Sunday to confirm, affirm and reaffirm before embarking on the journey on Monday morning (5th May,2025). She asked to come and I obliged

My wife gave a copy of the letter to NSCDC Agodi and I was called yesterday. The date on the letter as confirmed by the NSCDC is 6th May, 2025 ( Tuesday ) and not 5th May, 2025 (Monday)

While at the welfare office, they asked for money both for the letter and the delivery of the letter ( 1k for the letter and 3k for the delivery at BARIKA). I paid for the letter and promised to send the 3k to the UBA provided. But when I heard that date is 6th and not 5th I decided not pay the 3k for the delivery.

The officer in charge have been disturbing me with calls to pay the money.

They want me to pay for the service poorly rendered, they are asking me to pay for a job not well done.

I was supposed to travel to IBADAN on Tuesday and not Monday 5th

Can you drop your WhatsApp for me please?

yomi007k:
I think it is time for you to stop chasing after your woman and the mother -in-law. It will be better to invest the money on yourself as you are beginning to run low on funds too. Go and make money bro.


Let your conscience be at peace that you tried to do the right thing. I assure you the mother of your kids will wish she accepted your help but she is also under control of a M-I-L that will meet her waterloo soon.

You seem desperate to get the kids and the woman will use it on you.

While I went want to agree with you, these are his kids we are talking about right here. Children are like buildings. If the foundation is not well laid, there might be problems in future and then the opportunity is lost to correct it. All he wants is just to for his kids to be attending school. What kind of evil mother will resist this?
My brother op, just do your best as God has enabled you. I wish you luck. Dont relent

That your wife no get sense, she forgets so soon that if the children are not well trained, they will become problems for her tomorrow. She forgets that she will get old and will need those kids as .

My guy, don't pause your life, plenty reasonable women need man. Give yourself Sense and build your future

shortgun:


Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

Like seriously? You expect him to start the narration all over again because you are here? Some of you are unbelievable!
The man has given links to previous details. If you interested, go and read up, if not keep shut and leave the thread. Black people with mental laziness.
Dnt bother to quote me as this right here, will suffice. Bye

Foodqueen:
U don't have transport fare, and u want to fight for custody.

What do u intend to feed them with.

Jeez! Some of you have comprehension problem. He wants the kids to go to school. He is not fighting for custody.

MrDik3:
This sounds like a serious issue, Although there is no introduction, so it seems disted.

Also, I want to point out that the policewoman demanding mobilization fee should lose her job.

Didn't you see the link at the top post before reading?

it is true that the OP may not have enough money. However, can u prove the the Mother inlaw and/or the wife has more than him that will make him loose custody of his kids?

Anyways, i do agree that the OP needs to take some break, strategize and approach this issue with caution.

Sharpsharp00123:
Op I understand your point n I followed your story n I can deduce something's from your story so I will advise u to focus on yourself primarily for now.

No wife or child can reject a rich father, ask yourself how do u intend to send them upkeep when u yourself get stranded to the extent of begging for 500 naira?

So just assume they enrolled those children in school like u want and at this moment u are down they call u to send 10k for upkeep, how do u get it when u self don't even have it?

They might even use it as more excuse y they don't want to give u those kids, they will just cite your financial situation n they will win.

Go n work on yourself n make better money, once they start hearing about u n how well u are doing from people, they will b d ones to call u n then u can dictate things at your own pace but now that u don't have much nobody will release those kids to u cos it's obvious u can't take care of them

Toymax88:
Previous posts:

https://nairaland.moviesx.org/8416437/update-mother-in-law-selling-ogogoro


Good evening and happy new week, nlders

I called the officer in charge at the ministry of women affairs and social inclusions, IBADAN and she asked me to come this morning, so I set out for the journey around 8:30am.

It's quasi 1:00pm when I got to the ministry which Is located beside the NDLEA office. Immediately I introduced myself, the woman (officer in charge) called the MIL that she should make herself, wife and children available at her office (the phone was on speaker) and I was asked to go and stay outside while she's attending to other people with similar issues. They demanded for #4k i.e. 1k for the letter and 3k for the delivery of the letter at BARIKA

When it's half past 3:00pm, they didn't show up as promised and the woman had to call the mother in-law again and this time around her phone number was switched off, my babies Mama's phone number was not available too.

The officer in charge then told me that there's nothing they could do, she then advised to visit the office of the NSCDC office around Mokola roundabout or SANGO police station. I opted for SANGO police station and she directed me to a policewoman.


I got to the police station and explained my predicament to the policewoman, who demanded for a mobilization fee, I left the police station with the promise to come back. Initially the policewoman was reluctant, saying they don't normally meddle in a matter being handled by the Social Welfare office but she later agreed to assist

My instinct told me to quickly rushed down to their family house at BARIKA, UI second gate, just to check if the MIL was at home or not. The MIL, babies mama and the kids were no where to be found, the door was under lock and key.

Somebody directed me to other family who are mainly women (the husbands are dead). I explained everything to them with anger and frustration written all over my face. The eldest of the 3 women told that they would see to it. I told them my request that all I wanted is the enrollment of the children in schools and I took my leave

The cost of transportation within Ibadan (town service) is very high plus other expenses at the welfare office, all these gulped my money. I got to the bus terminal at OJOO and I was told that the transport fare to ILORIN is #6,500. I only had 4k left left in my pocket and this was y I was asking for a financial help on NAIRALAND but nobody came to my aid

I opted for ONE CHANCE (4k with AC) and while on the transit, a man bought 3 sachet water and gave me 1, when we alighted and had no means of getting home, I approached the man again and he gave me #500.. The man is working with a research institute in IBADAN but he's from Ilorin, his younger brother married my ex ( the girl is hails Agbaluku -Arigidi, Ikare -Akoko Ondo state). She's also a resident of IBADAN.


UPDATE

I just received a call from NSCDC office at Agodi, Ibadan. They asked me to come but I told them the complainant should give them to bring the letter of invitation to me in ILORIN. I want her feel what I'm feeling, I have to Ibadan 5 times and now they want me to come again. The NSCDC official was telling me that I shouldn't do that.

I told her I was stranded yesterday when I came.

Update

Who's to blame for the communication gap

I called the officer in charge in Sunday to confirm, affirm and reaffirm before embarking on the journey on Monday morning (5th May,2025). She asked to come and I obliged

My wife gave a copy of the letter to NSCDC Agodi and I was called yesterday. The date on the letter as confirmed by the NSCDC is 6th May, 2025 ( Tuesday ) and not 5th May, 2025 (Monday)

While at the welfare office, they asked for money both for the letter and the delivery of the letter ( 1k for the letter and 3k for the delivery at BARIKA). I paid for the letter and promised to send the 3k to the UBA provided. But when I heard that date is 6th and not 5th I decided not pay the 3k for the delivery.

The officer in charge have been disturbing me with calls to pay the money.

They want me to pay for the service poorly rendered, they are asking me to pay for a job not well done.

I was supposed to travel to IBADAN on Tuesday and not Monday 5th

There’s a reason why there are only women left in their family houses,you too are also embarking on part of the reason
Give yourself peace,Time heals lot of our problem

If I can tell you the truth, I will ask you to either leave the kids with your MIL. Firstly, they will use the kids to drain you because they know that you are emotionally attached to them. (I know what I'm saying here) Another thing is that you should start a new life and ignore your past, if you don't want to kill yourself. Start doing what gives you joy. Don't think about talking to the kids anymore. The MIL and your woman will soon start running after you. Also get yourself a friend, possibly a woman.

RISQUE:


No dey disturb us with d wahala wey you carry your hand cause. Carry your cross , you hear?

Abeg calm, no be so!

sayittome:
it is true that the OP may not have enough money. However, can u prove the the Mother inlaw and/or the wife has more than him that will make him loose custody of his kids?

Anyways, i do agree that the OP needs to take some break, strategize and approach this issue with caution.

she will win op anywhere so far op isn't financial buoyant that everyone can see, when it comes to cases like this, the woman tend to have upper hand cos nature believe women are wired to take care of young ones men are wired to go out n bring money

shortgun:


Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

Just shut it and find sumtin else to do..

It's not by force to. Read his post.. Scroll away....

shortgun:


Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

I have the time.

Oya get lost

ok

Sharpsharp00123:
she will win op anywhere so far op isn't financial buoyant that everyone can see, when it comes to cases like this, the woman tend to have upper hand cos nature believe women are wired to take care of young ones men are wired to go out n bring money

altteemy:
@kobojunkie, what he is chasing now is that his kids be sent to school instead of being used by the grandmother to hawk ogogoro.

Thanks

IsellSmartTvs:

There’s a reason why there are only women left in their family houses,you too are also embarking on part of the reason
Give yourself peace,Time heals lot of our problem

Great observation. Toymax, pls take note

RISQUE:


No dey disturb us with d wahala wey you carry your hand cause. Carry your cross , you hear?

Lol

shortgun:


Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

there are people who have been following the story. I understand all he has been saying.

Foodqueen:
U don't have transport fare, and u want to fight for custody.

What do u intend to feed them with.

he only wants to enroll his children in school.

shortgun:

There's no way to tell what your story is all about.
Why were you at the welfare office?
What or who is MIL?
The children that you want enrolled in school, how are they connected?

You didn’t follow the story from the onset and you failed to read the caption on this present one captioned UPDATE.

you didn’t see that as well

Toymax88:
Previous posts:

https://nairaland.moviesx.org/8416437/update-mother-in-law-selling-ogogoro


Good evening and happy new week, nlders

I called the officer in charge at the ministry of women affairs and social inclusions, IBADAN and she asked me to come this morning, so I set out for the journey around 8:30am.

It's quasi 1:00pm when I got to the ministry which Is located beside the NDLEA office. Immediately I introduced myself, the woman (officer in charge) called the MIL that she should make herself, wife and children available at her office (the phone was on speaker) and I was asked to go and stay outside while she's attending to other people with similar issues. They demanded for #4k i.e. 1k for the letter and 3k for the delivery of the letter at BARIKA

When it's half past 3:00pm, they didn't show up as promised and the woman had to call the mother in-law again and this time around her phone number was switched off, my babies Mama's phone number was not available too.

The officer in charge then told me that there's nothing they could do, she then advised to visit the office of the NSCDC office around Mokola roundabout or SANGO police station. I opted for SANGO police station and she directed me to a policewoman.


I got to the police station and explained my predicament to the policewoman, who demanded for a mobilization fee, I left the police station with the promise to come back. Initially the policewoman was reluctant, saying they don't normally meddle in a matter being handled by the Social Welfare office but she later agreed to assist

My instinct told me to quickly rushed down to their family house at BARIKA, UI second gate, just to check if the MIL was at home or not. The MIL, babies mama and the kids were no where to be found, the door was under lock and key.

Somebody directed me to other family who are mainly women (the husbands are dead). I explained everything to them with anger and frustration written all over my face. The eldest of the 3 women told that they would see to it. I told them my request that all I wanted is the enrollment of the children in schools and I took my leave

The cost of transportation within Ibadan (town service) is very high plus other expenses at the welfare office, all these gulped my money. I got to the bus terminal at OJOO and I was told that the transport fare to ILORIN is #6,500. I only had 4k left left in my pocket and this was y I was asking for a financial help on NAIRALAND but nobody came to my aid

I opted for ONE CHANCE (4k with AC) and while on the transit, a man bought 3 sachet water and gave me 1, when we alighted and had no means of getting home, I approached the man again and he gave me #500.. The man is working with a research institute in IBADAN but he's from Ilorin, his younger brother married my ex ( the girl is hails Agbaluku -Arigidi, Ikare -Akoko Ondo state). She's also a resident of IBADAN.


UPDATE

I just received a call from NSCDC office at Agodi, Ibadan. They asked me to come but I told them the complainant should give them to bring the letter of invitation to me in ILORIN. I want her feel what I'm feeling, I have to Ibadan 5 times and now they want me to come again. The NSCDC official was telling me that I shouldn't do that.

I told her I was stranded yesterday when I came.

Update

Who's to blame for the communication gap

I called the officer in charge in Sunday to confirm, affirm and reaffirm before embarking on the journey on Monday morning (5th May,2025). She asked to come and I obliged

My wife gave a copy of the letter to NSCDC Agodi and I was called yesterday. The date on the letter as confirmed by the NSCDC is 6th May, 2025 ( Tuesday ) and not 5th May, 2025 (Monday)

While at the welfare office, they asked for money both for the letter and the delivery of the letter ( 1k for the letter and 3k for the delivery at BARIKA). I paid for the letter and promised to send the 3k to the UBA provided. But when I heard that date is 6th and not 5th I decided not pay the 3k for the delivery.

The officer in charge have been disturbing me with calls to pay the money.

They want me to pay for the service poorly rendered, they are asking me to pay for a job not well done.

I was supposed to travel to IBADAN on Tuesday and not Monday 5th

You better go to AGIDIGBO FM (Kokoro Alate) if you want speedy result

Something you should have gone to Agidigbo instead so they can be called out. Keep disturbing yourself with police and welfare

Sharpsharp00123:
Op I understand your point n I followed your story n I can deduce something's from your story so I will advise u to focus on yourself primarily for now.

No wife or child can reject a rich father, ask yourself how do u intend to send them upkeep when u yourself get stranded to the extent of begging for 500 naira?

So just assume they enrolled those children in school like u want and at this moment u are down they call u to send 10k for upkeep, how do u get it when u self don't even have it?

They might even use it as more excuse y they don't want to give u those kids, they will just cite your financial situation n they will win.

Go n work on yourself n make better money, once they start hearing about u n how well u are doing from people, they will b d ones to call u n then u can dictate things at your own pace but now that u don't have much nobody will release those kids to u cos it's obvious u can't take care of them

don’t how we humans became this unfair to ourselves.. from your comment, it shows you didn’t read his previous posts on the matter which he even posted the link before rounding the story up. You’d have seen where wrote that he sent money, clothes and other stuff to them, where he even mentioned paying their fees directly to the head teacher of the school they would be attending, just so that their mom don’t tell lies about their schooling.
Going back and forth from Ilorin to ibadan has cost him a lot, one of the reasons he became flat the last time he went there, and had to ask for 500 naira to get to his area. Make Una Dey calm down for nairaland. All the comments before yours were “go and make money. Get rich and see them coming back for you” na so e easy?
And it’s not as if he is not working. Make Una Dey calm down digest people story well before commenting. He even mentioned that he’s tried setting her up business wise 3-times, all wasted. all the people saying go and work on yourself, go and make money, how much Una don get??

shortgun:


Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

He dropped 2 links to his previous posts at the beginning of his post.
Since you're asking for an introduction, you should try reading it to know where the whole issue started from.

Spending money you don't have to get access to children you can't train, it makes no sense, leave her alone and focus on yourself, improve your financial situation, I bet you Na she go beg you when she hear you're doing well, no be woman again? They're wired a certain way, your desperate attempts is the reason why she's even intensifying her efforts to frustrate you, when you stop caring she'll be the one calling you out trust me.

shortgun:


Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

But you expect him to repeat what he has posted before abi?

You are mocking him now but if anything happens, he will be blamed for not speaking out.

JomasisTech:

He dropped 2 links to his previous posts at the beginning of his post.
Since you're asking for an introduction, you should try reading it to know where the whole issue started from.

Na very insensitive person. Kai!

Technology should make things easy, wonder why we are not practicing egoverment .. just yesterday I saw a dead body on Ibadan express way between a church and an industry with head and hand chopped off, drying in the sun of a lady with stripes cloth ... At least in Lagos you have a short code number to call, I don't know who to call in Ibadan .. no day I that express way towards that direction I don't see dead body.

altteemy:
..., what he is chasing now is that his kids be sent to school instead of being used by the grandmother to hawk ogogoro.

Ever heard the saying, "Action speaks louder than words?" OP says that is what he says wants; it is up to him to ensure his actions are equally guided in the direction of that which he says he desires. 🤔